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Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #6

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #6

#6 I’m too old and it’s too late.

Uhh, no.
You already know this isn’t accurate. When you learn something new about anything you feel better armed, feel good, delighted even. That will be multiplied  astronomically when you become a detective of yourself.
If you have found a new career late in life…
If you have found someone to love late in life…
If you have found a new interest, a new way of learning, late in life…
Or if you found these or similar things in early stages of life or in mid-life…
Those are all good things.
I have recently  discovered things about animals that astonish me.  
We had dogs when we were growing up: Scamp, Gyp, both mongrels, Cleopatra, an elegant black Irish setter, and others, but aside from playing with them (and running with Cleo) I never really had time to learn much about them
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GRACIE THE DOG

Two years ago, my wife got us a dog, a cross between a Golden Retriever and a Poodle. We called her Gracie (GRRRacie) after Gracie Fields, the brilliant vaudeville-standup comedy partner of George Burns and because my wife sometimes says things like Gracie  Allen did.
If you remember, (or have seen them on You Tube) Gracie was the foil, the pretend ‘dumb’ partner  who could be never get anything right. Burns would go off on some topic or explain something or offer an opinion and he’d ask her what she thought (or she’d butt in with an opinion). Invariably what she said made no sense at all. Gracie appeared never to “get”; what George  was talking about.
 Here’s an example of Burns and Allen.  
Anyway after watching Gracie and seeing astonishing videos about dogs, and many other animals, I have a new deeper respect for the creatures. That is wisdom I didn’t have before.
I’ve learned something about myself too. A greater awareness of nature, an affection for animals that wasn’t there before I did have respect for them! 
We can all learn more about ourselves in surprising ways and those things we learn help us become more human, more compassionate.
Well, in this case, that’s what I learned.
You learn other things from different experiences.  
If you find learning things about yourself makes you more aware of life around you, more able to “see’ things in a proper (or different)  perspective, let’s talk.
Send me an email.
frankdaley@rogers.com
Frank

 

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #5

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #5

#5 People often fail to really know themselves because they feel know themselves already.

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Few people do. We are usually more concerned with helping others and working for others rather than working on ourselves. 
Knowing what food, movies and vacation spots you prefer may seem to prove that you know yourself, but they are only the tip of the iceberg. And you know what happened to the Titanic.
Even what appear to be simple new things we discover can have enormous influence on what we do next.
What would you do if your spouse died? What if you got cancer? If you could live your life over again what would you do differently?
Here’s as exercise.
Write your obituary as if you died today. Make it around 800 words.
Now write it as if you lived to be 85. Write it as you would like it to appear.
If you find any huge difference or wild discrepancy between the two, maybe we should talk about your future. 
Email me: frankdaley@rogers.com
There’s no charge, we’ll just talk. 
I’m with you.
Frank

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #4

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #4

#4 People don’t get to know themselves because they think it will take too long.
Well, in truth, it takes the rest of your life, because we humans are much more complicated than computers and getting to know yourself is more complicated than your computer.
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(That might not seem right when you are wrestling with the machine!)
But it won’t take up your life. In fact, you learn about yourself every day, all day by simply being aware of the thoughts you have and the decisions you make.
You learn incrementally, almost by osmosis when you know  what to look for and how to look for it.
I can prove that to you in one minute. 
Consider this:
If you have a serious problem in life but you don’t know its cause (so you don’t know how to solve it), the answer lies in self-knowledge.  

If you do not know yourself, three bad things will happen to you.

  •  You will not be in the right line of work.
  •  You will not be with the right person.
  •  You will not be happy. 

The last one follows from the first three. 
You will make wrong decisions in the main areas of life (career and mate selection in particular) and you will continue to make those poor decisions until you die unless and until you again self-knowledge.  
That’s harsh, but it is demonstrably true.
You know this intuitively, I’m just reminding you. 
Join me at Self-Knowledge College for a FREE conversation. 
I can help you know get to know yourself and be more successful in your personal and professional life. 
Email me: daleyfrank0@gmail.com
You won’t regret it.
Frank

 

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #3

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #3

#3 They think they are not smart enough

They think self-knowledge is only for people with PhDs or gurus who sit on mountain tops in India.
Or for famous writers, or MBAs, or philosophy professors in universities or think tanks. 
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Maybe this idea comes from what they’ve heard about Greek philosophy and that would be enough to scare off anybody, but it isn’t true. Philosophy is just examining life, our world and our place in it.
The other thing is, you can learn something you don’t know about yourself fast. And that information can help, you guide you for everything you do.
You already know a lot. For example, you know:
  • whether you are a night-owl or an early riser;
  • what your favorite foods are;
  • what you favorite kinds of movies and books are, etc.
Those are good things to know, yes?
It makes decision-making a lot easier.
Well, think about ratcheting up that knowledge up about a thousand times and you start to really know yourself and see your great potential when you discover the real, authentic you!
Let me show you something pretty fast.
Here’s a site that allows you to discover some of your strengths and weaknesses.
What you’ll learn here will help you know yourself a little better (maybe a lot better!)
Think about that when you are done, and then think what we could do together to discover much more about you
Self-knowledge will help you be more successful in your personal and professional life.
Your academic life too, for that matter.
Knowing yourself allows you to make better choices for yourself and, about yourself.
And even more important—it will be on your own terms. It will use your gifts, talents, and abilities to the utmost—to realize your true potential.
We get one shot at life—make it your best shot.
Email me and we’ll talk. I’ll show you how to improve your life in so many ways it’ll make your head spin.
You will reduce procrastination, increase your time management, improve your goal-setting and make you more content.
That’s a lot, but it doesn’t come close to the benefits of self-knowledge.
You will be amazed at what you were missing.
I assure you!
Lets schedule a FREE half hour conversation.
See if you agree! If you don’t, no problem! You’ve got nothing to lose if you take action, but  a lot to lose if you don’t.
As they used to say in that shampoo ad—You’re WORTH IT!
Frank

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #2

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #2

#2 They think it’s too difficult 

It’s not.
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Yes, it takes work, but it is also exciting because it focuses on the most important person on the planet—YOU!

Not in a selfish way, but in a positive, truthful, freeing way.
Here’s a little example.

JOBS, CAREER, WORK

We’re talking jobs here, careers, work. 
Imagine you are back in school. 

Remember those concrete brick classrooms covered with cream or off-white paint? Blackboards covered some of those walls, and there were windows on one side, but usually, the back of the room was entirely concrete brick.
Imagine that classroom was not 30 feet wide but 80. And 12 feet tall. Think of it as a convention hall room. 
Now imagine that each brick had the name of a job painted on it: nurse, sanitation man, doctor, grocery store clerk, lawyer, etc.jobs son bricks 80 feet wide and 12 feet high.
Here’s your task.

HOW DO YOU CHOOSE YOUR LIFE’S WORK?

Grab a piece of chalk.
Go to the front of the room.
Turn your back to the job wall. 
Over your shoulder, throw a piece of chalk at that wall.
Wherever it strikes a brick, that’s your job for life. 
You can’t aim it or have second tries. 
Throw, hit, accept. 
That’s it.
Do you like that idea?
A THROW OF THE DICE OR WORSE?
You don’t know yourself well enough to select a college program or a job that suits your abilities, talents and gifts, so you choose at random. 
Because you do not KNOW your talents, gifts, and abilities. Or you go into a job because your father did it. Or because your friends are going into it. Or because it’s the ‘next big thing’. Or because it’s trendy.​​  

​BECAUSE YOU DON’T KNOW ANY BETTER?

How will you feel fifty years on if you do that
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How do  you feel now, if that’s what you did?
Right. 
Not good.
 
There are circumstances that prevent us from doing what we were meant to do. Or even trained to do.
That’s life. 
Think of the immigrants who were professionals in their home countries– they’re from Syria now, but others have been coming here for two hundred years or more–who faced the same circumstances.
They are Immigrants as many of us (or our parents or grandparents) once were who come to Canada, the U.S., or Britain and find that because they don’t speak English and don’t have the requisite background, education or credentials they are at a huge disadvantage.
Even if they if they have the credentials in their home countries, those are not accepted here. Ever. Or not without more training and developed language skills. 
They are often too old for that and besides they have to get a job, support their families, educate their children and hope the kids will make it. Eventually.
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They don’t have a choice. That choice was taken from them by war or some other catastrophe.

​YOU HAVE A CHOICE, BUT IT REQUIRES SELF-EXAMINATION

We just have to understand that there IS a choice, and we need the information to make it responsibly, carefully and successfully. 
It isn’t difficult to “get” it if we know the consequences of NOT getting it.

​Just think about it.  If you would like to discuss your SELF, I’m here for you. 
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Frank
frankdaley@rogers.com

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #1

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #1

Most people are reluctant to go on an interior journey of the “self.” They offer one or more of six objections. I’ll write about them for the next week.

See if any of them apply to you.

#1. They think the whole business of Self-Knowledge is “airy fairy,” insubstantial and silly.

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It’s not.
It can be among the most demanding things you do in life. You need to be rigorous and truthful.
You will not like everything you discover about yourself. OK, so what? You know that’s the case already. We all feel that way because it’s true.
Knowing yourself will make whatever problem there is (if there is one) more specific, more  accessible. You’ll ‘be able to identify the  problem and then solve it.
You can never solve a problem you don’t “see” or can’t identify.
My system, my process, allows you to see the problem areas, identify them and then we’ll figure out how to solve them.
Here’s a short book on THAT issue!
What's Your problem? No, really, what IS your Problem? The Sherlock Holmes Guide to Problem Identification
There’s a reason you are having a problem in life that you can’t identify (and therefore can’t solve) and there’s no point or solution in feeling that way. Maybe get that short book and see if it resonates.
It works. This short book helps  you “see” the real problem so you can find ways of solving it rather than throwing up your hands in futility. We can’t solve it because we get side-tracked by three psychological blocks that prevent us from seeing the problem clearly.
It is frequently involves a delicate subject that involves a relationship with a person close to us. Often we say we ‘can’t’ solve an emotionally-charged problem that has been bothering us for months or years.  
Email me and we’ll talk.
frankdaley@rogers.com

Be yourself! Good luck with that! Know yourself first.

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Be Yourself. Good luck with that! Know Yourself First.

Many people in our society tell children to “be yourself.” 

This is well-meaning advice but impossible to do and totally wasted advice if the child does not ‘know herself.’ 

It is said mostly to young girls and boys who admittedly, have a herd mentality about many things.

Being yourself is not high on the list.

Teenagers (and even younger children) want the same heavily advertised material thing. Think of clothes, movie stars, and running shoes. 

Parents are trying to get them to be more independent, to think for themselves, but everybody wants to be part of the group.

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Nobody wants to be different. 

Being different usually translates as being alone or being a nerd and ultimately alone. 

Nobody wants to be alone.

But you can’t be yourself if you are different and you conform. 

JUST BE YOURSELF!

Parents say to their children, ‘Just be you, just be yourself.’

Note the word ‘just.’

We see this every day on TV. A parent has a child murdered and she says to a reporter, “I just want my child back.”

The request is touching but  hopeless because she says she just wants what is ‘impossible.’ 

It isn’t ‘just”anything; it is everything. 

‘Just’ implies a little thing, a morsel in the feast of what we want. But immediately we go for the ultimate: Bring my child back to life.

We know what parents mean when the give the advice “be yourself”–they mean:

  • don’t copy everyone else
  • don’t be a lemming (If Billy jumped off a bridge would you jump off one too?)
  • don’t get carried away with peer group influence
  • don’t be like everyone else
  • don’t always conform

 So the word  ‘just’  in this application is not helpful.

Parents say as if it was an easy thing to do, as if when you look at all the difficult things you have to do, that being yourself is simple and easy. 

The hope is that this recommendation will eliminate all the stress that accompanies being torn between being yourself and going with the crowd.

It’s supposed to solve all your problems.

Everyone knows that’s nonsense, but people continue to say it, probably because trying to think of something really effective to say to a teenager is too complicated or difficult. (Well, they’re right about that!)

Not that the idea is worthless. 

The most important person in the world is you. 

Not your mother. 

Not your boyfriend.

Not your husband. 

You! 

To be yourself means first, you have to know yourself.

That comes first, but is ignored or skipped over in the advice columns.

At Self-Knowledge College and Dropout to Dean’s List, I help people get to know themselves better so they can be more successful in their personal, academic and professional lives–on their own terms.

If  you, or someone you know, would benefit from learning more about themselves just email me. 

We’ll set up a brief, FREE conversation that could prove advantageous.

frankdaley@rogers.com

Frank

How Writing Helps Self-Knowledge And Promotes Success

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Why writing is important to my business success and your personal success through Self-knowledge.

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WRITING 1: WORK AND YOU

My business is Self-Knowledge College.
My sister site is Dropout to Dean’s List (for at-risk students).
My work is helping people know themselves so they can make better decisions for themselves and find success on their own terms in their personal and professional lives.
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It involves teaching people to know themselves and self-knowledge by itself isn’t going to attract many people on it’s own.
It’s not “sexy” enough.
It doesn’t provide an immediate, downloadable result for $100, much less $47.

OBJECTIONS TO OUR WORK

People have a lot of psychological, emotional and mental objections (most of them unconscious) to the idea of learning more about themselves.

  • First, they think they already know themselves pretty well since they know what movies, sports and food they prefer.
  • And they know what their most productive time of day is—whether, for example, they are early birds or night owls.
  • Then, if they think of self-knowledge at all, they often dismiss it because they think it is too difficult, takes too long to achieve, is only for gurus on mountains in diapers, (or geniuses or Phds).
  • If those don’t apply, they are fearful of learning about themselves because they think they won’t like everything they learn (they won’t—but they already have suspicions at the very least about those things). They don’t realize, yet, that they will also learn so many more many wonderful things about themselves that they also don’t know. Yet!

HOW AM I DOING?

How am I doing? I’m not sure. I have written in many forms professionally with good results but writing to you is more difficult. There isn’t a lot of feedback so far so it’s difficult to know whether I’m reaching you or not. This is an attempt to explain why writing is important for my work of helping you and important for you in your work of knowing yourself better.

WRITING 2: THE BEST WAY TO REACH YOU

I was going to say that writing is not the only way to reach you—there are such things as podcast, videos, teleseminars, webinars, speaking from the stage etc., but all of them involve writing as a first step.
I have used none of these yet, except public speaking—although I intend to—but when I do, I’ll l have to write scripts, outlines, drafts of posts, courses or books, notes for Voice/over videos, scripts for on-camera videos etc.
All of them involve writing.

WRITING 3: OBSTACLES TO CONNECTION

Writing—words— are the best way to reach people because apparently something happened in their childhoods that prevented other methods of reaching them from taking effect.

What are some of these?

Poor parenting is one (often unavoidable given the problems of growing up having children–while still being children in many ways themselves) and having to take responsibility for raising them while struggling with their own education, work and lack of self-awareness.
A lack of someone, somehow, using words (and yes, non-verbal displays of affection) to reach the child and tell them of their many gifts, talents and abilities. This lack of words has led to people not appreciating themselves, not knowing themselves and therefore not loving themselves. That a part is crucial because if you don’t know yourself, you can’t love yourself—you can’t love what you don’t know.
Many people in North America are immigrants with little formal education in their own languages much less familiarity with English. Writing—basic, simple, transformative language— is necessary to reach these citizens.

WHAT I BELIEVE

My thesis is that if you don’t know yourself three bad things will happen to you in life:

  1. You will not be in the right line of work
  2. You will not be with the right person and
  3. You will not be happy

You won’t be happy because of the first two.

Fighting our way through life, as we all must, requires some education, either formal or informal  and each of these require language. I need language—writing—to reach people on a deep level.
Our lives are filled with superficialities, meretricious attempts to distract us from our life purpose. 
And what if we can’t even define our purpose?
You need language too, in order to probe yourself, rigorously investigate  yourself, to determine your authentic self. Since most of us are adults—even my at-risk students are adults—we need some way to be alerted to the notion that learning more about who we are and what we want in life is monumentally important.
Important, and while not easy—it does require work to get to know yourself—it is also amazingly interesting and rewarding. Who is more interesting, more important, not in an entitled way, but in a profound way—than you are?
Nobody.
But you can’t help anyone else unless and until you are secure and confident in yourself, in your emotional, psychological and spiritual self. Nor can you help yourself much because you don’t know who you are and what you want or what questions to ask and answer and what directions or paths to take.

WRITING 4: COMMUNICATION

Words, writing, in some form or another (film scripts, TV shows,  movies, slide shows–are all based on writing), is the best way to communicate, to reach people, to suggest, to seduce, to persuade to convince them they that they are important and worthy and can be better. 
We all want be better, to improve ourselves, but we put obstacles in our own way, we self-sabotage for myriad reasons.
Words—writing and reading— can eventually cut through the bafflegab of life. 
When you know yourself you become a jet-propelled activist on behalf of yourself. 
You can’t help but get better when you know yourself.
It is not possible to fail at self-knowledge if you stick with it.
It’ll take some time (and granted, you’ll never know everything about yourself because you are too complicated and life is too short) but it is easily possible to learn something new about yourself every day.

TAKE MY COURSE ON SELF-KNOWLEDGE

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But first you must begin. And you begin by reading and listening to my words, through writing and speaking to you.

WRITING 5: SELF-KNOWLEDGE

Self-knowledge needs words to go deep in your job of self-detection.
It doesn’t matter if you are formally well educated or not—life has taught you many things.
I can teach you to harness those things, sort them out and prepare a system to follow things about you—or at least I can lead you to discover them.
One of the best ways to learn about yourself is to write about yourself.
That’s one of the things I will help you do if we work together. 
If I say Self-Knowledge, that’s because that’s what the core, the essence of you is. 
But we don’t constantly speak of Self-Knowledge in the abstract.
We use the right words to examine the presenting problems that are keeping you awake at night or causing you stress during the day.
I try to use simple, direct, clear language in my writing to examine things such as problems with time management, procrastination, goal-setting, the ability choose a college program or career path or even choosing a life partner.
We all know that one can be a life-destroyer.

IF YOU DON’T KNOW YOURSELF, YOU CAN’T LOVE YOURSELF

If you don’t know yourself you can’t love yourself because you can’t love something or somebody you don’t know.

It gets worse.

If you don’t love yourself, you can’t accept love from anyone else. Something inside you will subconsciously push that person away because you KNOW you are loveable.

This stuff doesn’t go away until and unless you address it. I have to use language, words, writing, to reach you and convince you things can be better in your personal and professional life.
You have to use them to be a gold detective of your inner self.
If you read and respond to my words.
The words, the writing, are important to me but they are also important to you if you need my assistance in gaining Self-Knowledge.
Or even if you don’t.
Join me at Self-Knowledge College.
For a FREE consultation, a strategy session, just email me at daleyfrank0@gmail.com
or call me at 905-584-0617.
If you could do it yourself, you would have done it by now.

WRITING 6: YOU

Write to me as I do to you.
I’m with you in this.
-Frank
Contact Info:
daleyfrank0@gmail.com
905-584-0617

Self-esteem and self-confidence–what's the difference?

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Self-esteem and self confidence.What’s the difference?

People often confuse ‘self-esteem’ and ‘self concept.’

The big difference between the self-concept and self-esteem is that the self-concept refers in general to the thinking aspect of self as it relates to our self-image (that is, how we see ourselves as related to others in a cognitive or thinking way) while self-esteem refers to the affective or emotional aspect, or the way we feel about ourselves. 

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(Some psychologists and other writers discuss the two terms almost interchangeably, which can be confusing, but the distinctions we make here should be helpful.)

SELF-CONCEPT  

The self-concept is “the totality of a complex, organized, and dynamic system of learned beliefs, attitudes and opinions that each person holds to be true about his or her personal existence.” (W. Purkey. 1998. An Overview of self-concept theory for counselors.)

That’s pretty clear–almost everything and anything we think or believe or have learned (from others and from our own actions and experiences.)
Franken says that a great deal of research indicates that the self-concept is the basis for all motivated behavior (R. Franken Human Motivation. 3rd ed. 1994)

It is the self-concept that gives rise to our possible selves and it is  our possible selves that create the motivation for behavior.

Our view of ourselves and our possibilities in the world is centered here.
Franken says that “people who have good self-esteem have a clearly differentiated self-concept.”
This makes sense, doesn’t?

SELF-ESTEEM

Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves.
We can be skilled at something yet feel inadequate.
We can be in a position of authority, influence or power and yet worry about whether we deserve or it can live up to it.
Sometimes we feel like frauds.
We think we’ve been getting away with a lie for years and someone is going to say ‘What the hell is he doing in that position? He’s doing a terrible job!”
We can feel like imposters or fakes.
Sometimes we luck into a job and  muddle around until we actually learn how to do it quite well but we are stuck with the feeling we had when we first got it. That we’re unfit for it.
Conversely we can feel that we’re doing as terrific job and be screwing it up.
Think of  the guy who ran the “clean up” of New Orleans after the floods, or Ron Ford, the ex-mayor of Toronto, or any of a dozen presidents of countries around the world.
Their self-esteem is high but misplaced.
They feel they are doing a good job but they are woefully out of touch.
So, in brief and generally-speaking, self-concept is what we think of ourselves and self-esteem (or lack thereof) is how we feel about ourselves.
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People who know who they are can achieve more in life because they know what they can do and what they can’t do and they are more likely to be motivated to do what they can.          

EVIDENCE THAT SELF-KNOWLEDGE IS THE KEY TO LIFE!

OK, that might  be overstating it but not by much!

Certainly, Knowing Yourself is the key to greater achievement in life.

Well, that’s the kind of thing that prompted me to study this whole field and to write and teach about it. If he agree, say something about it b low!

And if you are getting ready to learn more about yourself, send me an email. frankdaley@rogers.com  

Want more free information about you?

Join me here:

 http://www.selfknowledgecollege.com

-Frank

20 ways to identify at-risk students and children

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SPECIAL NOTE REGARDING SELF-HARM 

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Not all at-risk students are at-risk of self-harm or suicide but there are connections and similarities.
And one in five students DO harm themselves.
This is especially true with regard to those suffering from depression and anxiety.
If you or a child of yours is depressed or anxious, be vigilant.
If you need assistance, I may be able to help.
Contact me: daleyfrank0@gmail.com I’ll respond promptly.

WHAT QUALIFIES AS “AT-RISK?”

Before we can help a person in danger, we have to know who they are.  
“At-risk” students are generally considered to be those who are in danger of failing or dropping out of school. There are signs to indicate that they are not just in “a phase.” 

HOW MANY STUDENTS ARE AT-RISK? 

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HOW MANY STUDENTS ARE AT-RISK?

In some places in North America, almost 50% of students fail or drop out at one point or other. Of those who get to college (or university) 30% more change programs and when they do they usually go to another institution.

WHAT KIND OF SCHOOLS ARE THEY IN? 

Almost any kind: certainly high school, college and university. Even grade school children are at risk if they show indications such as the ones below.

HOW CAN YOU TELL WHO IS AT-RISK?   

Parents sometimes find it difficult to discern  serious trouble from normal teen-age behavior.
No surprise there.

But there are many ways you can determine if a student is at-risk academically or otherwise. 

THE FIRST THREE WAYS to discover those at-risk

Clearly those with diagnosed emotional, psychological or mental disabilities (ADD, ADHD, autism, etc.) are likely to be at-risk.

So those are the first three ways to tell.

But what of those kids who have not been diagnosed?

Thousands of children with problems are undiagnosed, and even those who are often don’t get the help they require. But aside from those obvious circumstances, how else can parents (and the rest of us) tell?

IF THEY…

4. have failed a semester or a whole year.
5. have been struggling in school for years.
6. have low or dropping grades.
7. have lost interest in school.
8. do not like their current program.
9. have some emotional or psychological problem.
10. have weak academic skills and won’t acknowledge  it.
11. do not know how to be a successful student.
OR THEY…
12. “hate” school.
13. are cutting or otherwise harming themselves
14. are suffering from depression.
15. are suffering from anxiety
16. think they are not smart enough for college or university.
17. want to work instead of going to school because they feel so bad.
18. want to change schools or programs but not be able to tell their parents about how they feel because they do not want to disappoint them.
19. can’t speak to their parents about any of this  but you can see there is something wrong.

Then they are at risk.

20. if she is sad or unhappy.

IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM

There are many other ways that young people can indicate they are in trouble academically–we’ll get to them in this series– but right now we have to be able to tell who is in danger before we can help him or her.

PARENTS NEED GUIDELINES

Parents need some guidelines. Often a parent who mentions something will get  jumped on by the kid: you are interfering or babying or “It’s none of your business” or, “I’m fine!” Or, “leave me alone!”

But, you can’t solve a problem without identifying it. 

IF YOUR CHILD IS SHOWING ANY OF THE SIGNS IN THE LISTS ABOVE, THEN SHE OR HE IS AT-RISK.

DO THEY KNOW THEY HAVE A PROBLEM?

At-risk students?

At-risk students

Sure, they know. And so do you.

They are having trouble in  school and that leads to problems with parents, peers and themselves. They are disappointed  in themselves. They are also confused and frightened. 

However, knowing you have a problem doesn’t mean you can identify it, let alone solve it. That’s what I can help them do. 

LEAVING SCHOOL CAN BE A GOOD IDEA BUT NOT USUALLY

Leaving school and going to work is a good idea--under certain circumstances–but I’m not referring to people or situations like that right  now.(We will get to it.) I’m talking about young people who would benefit from school, who are smart, who should be in (some kind of) school, but are drifting away, losing interest, getting frustrated and depressed. 

  • If you are a student, you know who you are.
  • If you are a parent or guardian of someone like this, you know it. This is a serious problem. 

I can help you if you are a student or a parent.

Visit Dropout to Dean’s List.

For faster action, Email me for a FREE information and strategy session. 

daleyfrank0@gmail.com 

-Frank

P.S.  If you have known about this problem for some time–or at least suspected something–then isn’t it time you did something about it?
It doesn’t have to end this way. This is either your life or your child’s.
Let me help you.
A FREE half-hour strategy session is an email away.
daleyfrank0@gmail.com

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