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Student suicide. Is one related to you? Attawapiskat’s fear is everywhere.

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STUDENT SUICIDE

Is one child related to you?  

Students are suffering from anxiety, depression, loneliness, and peer, parental and societal pressure. 

They suffer from suicidal thoughts and feelings. They are “handling it”  by inflicting self-harm.

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Too many are killing themselves.
Cutting leads to suicide

Is everything OK? 

Definitely not.  

The current terrible situation in  Attiwapiskat, a native community in Northern Ontario, is dramatic horrifying and heart wrenching. There have been 39 suicide attempts in six weeks in a community of 2,000–including 11, last Saturday.

Here’s a Toronto Star piece on the tragedy.

http://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2016/04/12/attawapiskats-emergency-tragedy-co-exist-with-beauty-complexity.html

The provincial government is sending in people to help but that, while good, is a band-aid solution.

The helpers, just for example, don’t really nave a place to stay while they are trying to assist. How long will they be able to sleep in tents or whatever?

The problems are huge. They will not be solved in six weeks.

Aside from “normal’ (if we can call it that and we must because of the frequency of the attempts) situations, these remote native communities face problems we don’t have in the south: no water or poor water, poor housing, poor medical, fire, police and educational resources. 

Add to that alcoholism, no jobs, physical and mental abuse…the horrifying  list goes on in one of the richest countries in the world.
It is a disgrace.

It is also a problem in non-native communities

I’ve been warning of this for years and some help is available but not much –certainly not enough.
 Here’s a fairly comprehensive article on it by Julie Scelfo of the New York Times.
If you have a son or daughter at risk send them to Dropout to Dean’s List.
Please read this and if it affects you, or even if you think it might, act on it.
(LINK) Maybe I can help you son or daughter (or you, if you are a student reading this).
Here is another  article from Dropout to Dean’s List and self-Knowledge College on self-harming students.
SELF-HARMING STUDENTS
And here’s one to indicate to you signs you can look for in at-risk students
at-risk students..how can you tell?
At the very least I understand the problem and have assisted others.
This is far more serious than you imagine.

Self-harm

They look normal but what are they feeling?

Email me at: daleyfrank0@gmail.com
Call me: 905-584-0617
I can help sometimes.
-Frank Daley

What's Your Problem, Now In Italian!

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My book,
What’s Your Problem? No Really, What IS Your Problem? The Sherlock Holmes Guide to Problem Identification,
has been translated into Italian and published on
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iTunes
Kobo
Tolino and
Scribd.
Of course, it’s in English too!
Ahttp://www.amazon.com/Conosci-stesso-passi-lAuto-consapevolezza-Italian-ebook/dp/B01CR5M09Y/ref=sr_1_6?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1460403317&sr=1-6&keywords=frank+daley

What's Your Problem? Now available in Spanish!

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My book, What’s Your Problem? No, really, What IS Your Problem? The Sherlock Holmes Guide to Problem Identification, has been translated into Spanish and published on
Amazon,
Nook,
iTunes,
Kobo,
Tolino and
Scribd.
Not a sales pitch, just an announcement!

 
 
 
 

Don’t know yourself? The 6th reason people give: "I’m too old and it’s too late."

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Don’t know yourself?

The sixth reason people give…

“I’m too old and it’s too late.”

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This is the last in a six-part series on why people do not take the time and effort to know them selves.

KNOW YOURSELF

“I’m too old and it’s too late to get to know myself. What good would it do?”

 Uhhh, no.

You already know this isn’t accurate.
When you learn something new about anything you feel better armed, feel good, delighted even. That will be multiplied astronomically when you become a detective of yourself.

You are never too old to learn–look at all these people who get graduate degrees (never mind B.A.s–they’re common)–when they are are over 80 or 90 years old!
(This guy’s probably learning Spanish!)

THE BIG DIRT NAP 2095209-tombstone-taking-a-dirt-nap

You must make decisions every day until you go to the big dirt nap. Why not make the best decisions you can with the time you have left?

You could be 20 or 80…it doesn’t matter... Improve your scorecard!

We all regret having made unwise, not to say stupid, decisions along the way.

You can stop that immediately!

Know Yourself.  It’s easy!

Let me help you learn more about yourself.

You won’t regret it, I assure you.

Frank

Email me for a free conversation abut what self-knowledge can do for you!

frankdaley@rogers.com

For these guys …OK, they’re too old.
They’re dead.
But you’re not.

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We’re not too old too know ourselves!

 

BENEFITS IF YOU KNOW YOURSELF

Almost everything changes.

  • You choice of a mate
  • Your choice of career
  • Your choice of friends
  • Your choice of  your values
  • Your choice of how you spend time
  • Your choice where to live and work.
  • Your choice of what to study in school or college

Everything changes. And for the better.
Why? because you know know who you are and what you want.
Before  you know yourself  you have one of this.
NONE.
You are a reed in the water, diverted by every passing  fancy object or shiny object.
You can stop doing that when you know yourself.
I can help show you how to do it. Email me for a free discussion.
daleyfrank0@gmail.com
Frank
P.S. Here’s a link to the 5th reason people say they don’t know themselves

There is no such thing as self-help but maybe you need it anyway!

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There is no such thing as self-help. But maybe you need it anyway!

“If you got help, you did not do it yourself and if you did it yourself, you didn’t need it.”
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I love this!
 
On the other hand, Maybe you need it anyway!

 ANY OF THESE THINGS BOTHER YOU?

  • If you have a problem you have been unable to solve for  some time and you don’t even know what it is or what’s causing it, then you might need it!
  • It could be a problem with time management.
  • Or procrastination.
  • Or goal-setting.
  • It could be a problem with your relationship with a parent or a child.
  • It could be something that has become (or is becoming) a problem with your  wife or husband (or boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • It could involve you thinking about a change in career or at least in your life’s direction.
Maybe you need a fresh perspective by someone who will listen and not judge. Maybe you just need to talk about it to get your ideas clear.
 
Sometimes we have problems that we say we “can’t ” solve. They’ve been  with us so long unresolved, we have just decided to ignore them or suppress them. But it’s like with some people–no matter how deep you bury them they always come back to haunt you!

HELP! EVEN IF IT’S NOT SELF-HELP

All of us need help at one time or another. Look at all the singing coaches, theater coaches, golf coaches for professional entertainers and sports stars.
They ALL have coaches. Every one of them. And they are excellent at what they do. 
They are always trying to improve or change something to make it a little better, a little more effectibve.
We are no different except we think we can’t use a coach or afford one.
Usually that isn’t true.
What's Your problem? No, really, what IS your Problem? The Sherlock Holmes Guide to Problem Identification
Ad the benefits that accrue from coaching or even just talking with someone else–a disinterested listener–not UNinterested, disinterested–which means we don’t have money on the race–and  truthful discussions can be life-changing.
 
Just think about it. Let’s discuss it. FREE
In the meantime, maybe take a look at this book of mine on problem-identification.
I really can help.
daleyfank0@gmail.com
Frank

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #6

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #6

#6 I’m too old and it’s too late.

Uhh, no.
You already know this isn’t accurate. When you learn something new about anything you feel better armed, feel good, delighted even. That will be multiplied  astronomically when you become a detective of yourself.
If you have found a new career late in life…
If you have found someone to love late in life…
If you have found a new interest, a new way of learning, late in life…
Or if you found these or similar things in early stages of life or in mid-life…
Those are all good things.
I have recently  discovered things about animals that astonish me.  
We had dogs when we were growing up: Scamp, Gyp, both mongrels, Cleopatra, an elegant black Irish setter, and others, but aside from playing with them (and running with Cleo) I never really had time to learn much about them
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GRACIE THE DOG

Two years ago, my wife got us a dog, a cross between a Golden Retriever and a Poodle. We called her Gracie (GRRRacie) after Gracie Fields, the brilliant vaudeville-standup comedy partner of George Burns and because my wife sometimes says things like Gracie  Allen did.
If you remember, (or have seen them on You Tube) Gracie was the foil, the pretend ‘dumb’ partner  who could be never get anything right. Burns would go off on some topic or explain something or offer an opinion and he’d ask her what she thought (or she’d butt in with an opinion). Invariably what she said made no sense at all. Gracie appeared never to “get”; what George  was talking about.
 Here’s an example of Burns and Allen.  
Anyway after watching Gracie and seeing astonishing videos about dogs, and many other animals, I have a new deeper respect for the creatures. That is wisdom I didn’t have before.
I’ve learned something about myself too. A greater awareness of nature, an affection for animals that wasn’t there before I did have respect for them! 
We can all learn more about ourselves in surprising ways and those things we learn help us become more human, more compassionate.
Well, in this case, that’s what I learned.
You learn other things from different experiences.  
If you find learning things about yourself makes you more aware of life around you, more able to “see’ things in a proper (or different)  perspective, let’s talk.
Send me an email.
frankdaley@rogers.com
Frank

 

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #5

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #5

#5 People often fail to really know themselves because they feel know themselves already.

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Few people do. We are usually more concerned with helping others and working for others rather than working on ourselves. 
Knowing what food, movies and vacation spots you prefer may seem to prove that you know yourself, but they are only the tip of the iceberg. And you know what happened to the Titanic.
Even what appear to be simple new things we discover can have enormous influence on what we do next.
What would you do if your spouse died? What if you got cancer? If you could live your life over again what would you do differently?
Here’s as exercise.
Write your obituary as if you died today. Make it around 800 words.
Now write it as if you lived to be 85. Write it as you would like it to appear.
If you find any huge difference or wild discrepancy between the two, maybe we should talk about your future. 
Email me: frankdaley@rogers.com
There’s no charge, we’ll just talk. 
I’m with you.
Frank

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #4

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #4

#4 People don’t get to know themselves because they think it will take too long.
Well, in truth, it takes the rest of your life, because we humans are much more complicated than computers and getting to know yourself is more complicated than your computer.
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(That might not seem right when you are wrestling with the machine!)
But it won’t take up your life. In fact, you learn about yourself every day, all day by simply being aware of the thoughts you have and the decisions you make.
You learn incrementally, almost by osmosis when you know  what to look for and how to look for it.
I can prove that to you in one minute. 
Consider this:
If you have a serious problem in life but you don’t know its cause (so you don’t know how to solve it), the answer lies in self-knowledge.  

If you do not know yourself, three bad things will happen to you.

  •  You will not be in the right line of work.
  •  You will not be with the right person.
  •  You will not be happy. 

The last one follows from the first three. 
You will make wrong decisions in the main areas of life (career and mate selection in particular) and you will continue to make those poor decisions until you die unless and until you again self-knowledge.  
That’s harsh, but it is demonstrably true.
You know this intuitively, I’m just reminding you. 
Join me at Self-Knowledge College for a FREE conversation. 
I can help you know get to know yourself and be more successful in your personal and professional life. 
Email me: daleyfrank0@gmail.com
You won’t regret it.
Frank

 

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #3

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #3

#3 They think they are not smart enough

They think self-knowledge is only for people with PhDs or gurus who sit on mountain tops in India.
Or for famous writers, or MBAs, or philosophy professors in universities or think tanks. 
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Maybe this idea comes from what they’ve heard about Greek philosophy and that would be enough to scare off anybody, but it isn’t true. Philosophy is just examining life, our world and our place in it.
The other thing is, you can learn something you don’t know about yourself fast. And that information can help, you guide you for everything you do.
You already know a lot. For example, you know:
  • whether you are a night-owl or an early riser;
  • what your favorite foods are;
  • what you favorite kinds of movies and books are, etc.
Those are good things to know, yes?
It makes decision-making a lot easier.
Well, think about ratcheting up that knowledge up about a thousand times and you start to really know yourself and see your great potential when you discover the real, authentic you!
Let me show you something pretty fast.
Here’s a site that allows you to discover some of your strengths and weaknesses.
What you’ll learn here will help you know yourself a little better (maybe a lot better!)
Think about that when you are done, and then think what we could do together to discover much more about you
Self-knowledge will help you be more successful in your personal and professional life.
Your academic life too, for that matter.
Knowing yourself allows you to make better choices for yourself and, about yourself.
And even more important—it will be on your own terms. It will use your gifts, talents, and abilities to the utmost—to realize your true potential.
We get one shot at life—make it your best shot.
Email me and we’ll talk. I’ll show you how to improve your life in so many ways it’ll make your head spin.
You will reduce procrastination, increase your time management, improve your goal-setting and make you more content.
That’s a lot, but it doesn’t come close to the benefits of self-knowledge.
You will be amazed at what you were missing.
I assure you!
Lets schedule a FREE half hour conversation.
See if you agree! If you don’t, no problem! You’ve got nothing to lose if you take action, but  a lot to lose if you don’t.
As they used to say in that shampoo ad—You’re WORTH IT!
Frank

Six Reasons for Lack of Self-Knowledge #2

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Lack of Self-Knowledge: Reason #2

#2 They think it’s too difficult 

It’s not.
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Yes, it takes work, but it is also exciting because it focuses on the most important person on the planet—YOU!

Not in a selfish way, but in a positive, truthful, freeing way.
Here’s a little example.

JOBS, CAREER, WORK

We’re talking jobs here, careers, work. 
Imagine you are back in school. 

Remember those concrete brick classrooms covered with cream or off-white paint? Blackboards covered some of those walls, and there were windows on one side, but usually, the back of the room was entirely concrete brick.
Imagine that classroom was not 30 feet wide but 80. And 12 feet tall. Think of it as a convention hall room. 
Now imagine that each brick had the name of a job painted on it: nurse, sanitation man, doctor, grocery store clerk, lawyer, etc.jobs son bricks 80 feet wide and 12 feet high.
Here’s your task.

HOW DO YOU CHOOSE YOUR LIFE’S WORK?

Grab a piece of chalk.
Go to the front of the room.
Turn your back to the job wall. 
Over your shoulder, throw a piece of chalk at that wall.
Wherever it strikes a brick, that’s your job for life. 
You can’t aim it or have second tries. 
Throw, hit, accept. 
That’s it.
Do you like that idea?
A THROW OF THE DICE OR WORSE?
You don’t know yourself well enough to select a college program or a job that suits your abilities, talents and gifts, so you choose at random. 
Because you do not KNOW your talents, gifts, and abilities. Or you go into a job because your father did it. Or because your friends are going into it. Or because it’s the ‘next big thing’. Or because it’s trendy.​​  

​BECAUSE YOU DON’T KNOW ANY BETTER?

How will you feel fifty years on if you do that
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How do  you feel now, if that’s what you did?
Right. 
Not good.
 
There are circumstances that prevent us from doing what we were meant to do. Or even trained to do.
That’s life. 
Think of the immigrants who were professionals in their home countries– they’re from Syria now, but others have been coming here for two hundred years or more–who faced the same circumstances.
They are Immigrants as many of us (or our parents or grandparents) once were who come to Canada, the U.S., or Britain and find that because they don’t speak English and don’t have the requisite background, education or credentials they are at a huge disadvantage.
Even if they if they have the credentials in their home countries, those are not accepted here. Ever. Or not without more training and developed language skills. 
They are often too old for that and besides they have to get a job, support their families, educate their children and hope the kids will make it. Eventually.
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They don’t have a choice. That choice was taken from them by war or some other catastrophe.

​YOU HAVE A CHOICE, BUT IT REQUIRES SELF-EXAMINATION

We just have to understand that there IS a choice, and we need the information to make it responsibly, carefully and successfully. 
It isn’t difficult to “get” it if we know the consequences of NOT getting it.

​Just think about it.  If you would like to discuss your SELF, I’m here for you. 
​
Frank
frankdaley@rogers.com
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