Skills are talents in action

A developed talent results in a skill or a group of skills.

This is Part 36 in a series of articles about the “self.”

You might be a talented athlete but you are still going to have to learn how to run patterns, catch passes, hold onto the ball when tackled, and kick the ball through the goal posts.

A skill is a developed talent or gift.

An exercise.

Answer all the following questions and any others that come to mind about these topics.

(If you have trouble thinking of all the things you like, write down all the things you dislike.)
Sometimes we can come at things from the negative and the result is positive.
What are you not good at, what do you not like.
Then let’s figure out why that is.
Do you hate math because you hate math or because you had a teacher who humiliated you when you gave a wrong answer?
And exactly how much did you prepare your math homework before you gave that wrong answer?
Now, write down the top ten things that you can remember in your life that had the greatest positive effects on you, or made the greatest impressions.
It could have been an incident, an intervention, a book, a movie, a relationship.
Now, do the same thing for the 10 biggest negative impacts on your life.
If you can’t remember them, they didn’t make a big enough impression!
What were the top things that put you on the path to where you are today.
Then write how you feel about those things today.
When you discover your strengths play to them. Follow your nature, your talents, your gifts and your loves.
Don’t spend a lot of time working on your negatives.

Don’t let negatives tie you down of course, if you are poor with numbers you still have to know enough to balance your chequebook, pay your bills and make change for a dollar, but don’t stress about it.

Most of the time you can use a calculator! If you are not a detail person don’t go into accounting.
If you love people don’t be a solo worker in the basement of a storage building.
Play to your strengths, develop you gifts, and become skilled in your talents.
Find partners whose talents complement yours and work together.
As I mentioned if you work too much on your weak areas all you’ll get is a bunch of modest skills and you’ll never have time to develop your best talents to a high level.
Don’t rush this process because you think you are behind. If you rush you’ll not only miss smelling the roses, you’ll make false ‘discoveries’ about yourself and waste time following them into dead ends.
We’re done with that.
Abandon that idea.
Slow down.
Get it right this time.
If you don’t know yourself, three bad things will happen to you:
You won’t be in the right line of work; you won’t be with the right person; and you won’t be happy.
It’s up to you. So yes, you do have to be yourself but find out who you are first.
Ultimately, you have to be yourself. Everybody else is taken.
If you need help with this I can help you.
This is a transformative process.
Email me at daleyfrank0@gmail.com
Or call me: 647-205-5059
Frank
P.S. If you could do this by yourself, you would have done it by now.
Come to me at Self-Knowledge College and lets get rid of this nonsense.
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