Know yourself and solve problems better.
This is Part 11 in a series of articles about the “self.”
We all run into problems with others and the answer often is, “Talk it out.”
Good advice, but it ain’t easy.
Before you can get to problem-solving BETWEEN YOU AND SOMEONE ELSE you have to listen with compassion and understanding.
Athena Staik, writing on Psych Central offers 5 prerequisites for getting into the problem-solving phase with your mate but the piece can be used for friends or coworkers too.
“The biggest obstacles in couple communications…often have to do with unlocking the heart and imagination of each partner to want to hear or listen to what the other says.” she says.
She writes of “healing yourself” of whatever is preventing you from seeing the other person’s point of view.
That’s for extreme situations; for most of us, the conditions don’t require healing!
It’s another way of saying, “know yourself” so you realize when you are contributing to the lack of communication that sometimes is the cause of the inability to solve a problem or even to address it properly between people.
Before you can solve a problem, you have to identify it.
Here’s a short take on how to do that.
What’s Your Problem?: Having Trouble Identifying it? REFRAME IT AND SOLVE IT
Read Athena Staik’s piece HERE
When you know yourself better you can solve problems better.
More easily, faster and without (as much!) stress.
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-Frank
Previous posts:
Part 1: Do you find yourself or create it? And why bother anyway?
Part 2: Searching for yourself? Flying blind? Need a new search party?
Part 3: Be yourself. Everybody else is taken!
Part 4: Self discovery without viagra.
Part 5: Selfish vs Selfless (in women)
Part 6: Selfish. Always wrong?
Part 7: Selfishness, in the family.
Part 8: Singer Sarah Slean knows who she is
Part 9: Whatever you do, don’t be yourself!
Part 10: Self sinks soon. Save yourself!
Up next:
Part 12: Self-regard. Do you ever feel worthless?
Frank Daley
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647-205-5059
356 Westridge Drive , Waterloo, Ontario, Canada