This is Part 1 in a series of articles about the “Self.”
MANY EXPERTS ADVISE US TO “FIND OURSELVES.”
There seems to be confusion, though, about whether we find ourselves (the self having already been created) or whether we create ourselves –from whatever is inside us and whatever we add throughout life.
Both philosopher, Thomas Szasz, and writer, George Bernard Shaw, say,
“The self is not something one finds: it is something one creates.”
What?
S#*!
Many wise guys coming to opposite conclusions?
If they can’t agree –what chance do WE have of figuring this stuff out?
No wonder people never get to know themselves, I can hear you saying.
The experts can’t even get it straight!
“Find yourself” say some.
“No, You don’t find yourself, you create yourself,” say others.
That sounds like a contradiction. But it isn’t.
We CAN talk about finding our true selves if we use the term FINDING to mean we go deep inside ourselves to discover our
natural gifts.
The ones that have the capacity to be identified and nurtured.
When you find your gifts (that is, RECOGNIZE them)… (and I can teach you how to do this later) …you then CREATE your SELF from them.
Your abilities, talents and gifts will tell you what your self is.
You can discover them now even if you don’t already know what they are.
Then you USE them to CREATE your SELF.
We are all unique in our human make-up, in our essence, even if we do not see it.
Other people will see it though.
Other people DID see it.
Your friends, teachers, relatives saw it in you when you were little.
- Maybe those people did not nurture those things that make you unique.
- Maybe they were preoccupied with their own problems.
- Maybe they weren’t good at noticing these things.
- Maybe they weren’t smart enough
- Maybe they were jealous.
Who the hell knows?
And now, who cares.
Well, actually WE both care. You and I.
We’re not going to be victims and mope around about it.
You probably (at least partially) recognized your true gifts too but maybe you weren’t paying attention either.
Why do you think you start wanting to do weird stuff when you get to be 30 or 35 or 40?
- Stuff you’ve never done before–like playing a musical instrument or learning a language or reading about math?
- Or picking up something that you vaguely remember liking to do when you were a kid.
- Or starting to do something that intrigued the hell out of you when you were younger but somehow never had the time or the courage to try then?
We CAN go into this deeply (and if you stay with me we will).
And you’ll HAVE to do some deep work to some degree, even if it’s just to figure out how the hell you missed all the obvious signs that indicated you were an amazing creature.
- Even if somebody did point these gifts out to you but you ignored their observations.
- Even if you have failed to recognize your gifts.
- Or abandoned them.
- Or traded them for what you thought was shiny gain, or easy opportunity.
- Or wrong-headed self-sacrifice.
(There’s a lot of THAT going on out there!)
The potential is still there.
So “finding yourself” or “creating yourself.”
Call it whatever you like.
If you want to be happy, you still have to do it.
If you are not a subscriber, you can begin by getting my eBook,
FOUR QUESTIONS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE!
It’s FREE here on this site and will be on Amazon for around $3.
You can also get a free consultation with me on any problem that might be driving you nuts.
If you have a problem with time management, personal goals, choosing a career path, the inability to choose a life partner (maybe you consistently date the wrong people) or any other troublesome area, you can help solve it with self-knowledge and I can teach you how to do that.
For a 20 minute– FREE— introduction, please email me: daleyfrank0@gmail.com or call me: 905-584-0617
I’ll be with you.
-Frank
Up next:
Part 2: Searching for yourself? Flying blind? Need a new search party?
Frank Daley
daleyfrank0@gmail.com
647-205-5059
356 Westridge Drive , Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
