September 17, 2014

Is ‘self-discovery’ destroying marriage? Not really.

Any self-discovery going on here?

Any self-discovery going on here?

 ‘Self-discovery.’ Is it destroying marriage?

A U.S. psychologist thinks so. Ian Semple, writing in Britain’s The Guardian, examines this controversial theory.

“Eli Finkel, director of social  psychology at Northwestern University in Illinois, said couples today looked to their marriages to help them “grow as individuals”, and support them through “voyages of self-discovery.. But their expectations are rarely met, he said, because of the investment of time and effort involved.”

Finkel is quoted as saying:

“In 2014, … your partner cannot do that unless he or she really knows who you are…(and) that requires much greater investment of time and psychological resources,”

THE PROBLEM WITH THE THESIS

The problem with that statement is that it is riddled more with questions than the answer it purports to give.

First, as a general statement about some people it is probably true.

But that desire is not necessarily (or I submit, even usually) a conscious desire.

It is a sub-conscious yearning, a  dream, an unspoken hope.

Second, it’s a contradiction in terms  (and in reality) to have someone else find you.

You have to do that yourself.

Third, the chances of  your spouse knowing you better than you (can) know yourself are slim unless you are totally un-self-aware. Which, of course IS possible!

YOUR PARTNER DOES KNOW YOU BUT NOTHING LIKE the self-discovery you can find.

Oh, s/he he’ll know some things about you that you don’t know  about you but nothing like the bigger picture you can get if you do some rigorous  self-detection.

The fact is that most people don’t self-discover; they are only dimly aware that it might be a good idea to know themselves,

Of course, people can help you do that by encouraging it.

And of course many people ARE aware of the quest to improve themselves, to self-discover.

BUT THOSE POPULAR “SELF-THINGS” ARE SECONDARY TO THE CORE ELEMENTS OF SELF-KNOWLEDGE

Most people unaware of the benefits of the core idea of self-knowledge.

  • Self-improvement, yes.  (I need to be better at “x.)
  • Self-growth, yes? (I need to  be better at more things.)
  • Self-development, yes? (I need to develop myself.)
  •  But self-knowledge? As they say these days, “Not so much.”

“Time was (says  Finkel) when a roof over your head, food on the table and occasional bouts of sexual activity were the hallmarks of a successful marriage. Not any more.”

Well, THAT’s true!

Here’s the complete article.

Dreams of ‘self-discovery’ destroying marriage, claims psychologist

WANT TO KNOW MORE …

ABOUT THE MOST INTERESTING PERSON IN THE WORLD?

(No, not the guy in the beer commercial.)

YOU!

If you want to know more about yourself, don’t count on your spouse, count on yourself.

And count on me.

I won’t tell you about yourself. I don’t know you from Adam…but I can teach you how to learn about yourself.

Consider the benefits:

You will

  • self-develop,
  • self-grow,
  • self-improve. WHY?

Because you will know yourself.

Your marriage might improve too since you are not asking your  partner do something you  have to do yourself!

But yes, I can help. Try it..you’ll like it!

Join me at Self-knowledge College.

P.S. The study was conducted at Northwestern University in Chicago where I received an M.A. No connection, really, I just thought it was interesting!

 

Frank

How to be a success like Genie Bouchard!

Secrets of success: Genie Bouchard

How to be self-confident and successful.

Success!

Genie Bouchard Earned success

Wimbledon junior champion 2 years ago at 18. 
Wimbledon finalist at 20 this year.
Why she’s a success and how you can be too.

Here are a few critical success keys.

SELF-CONFIDENCE

First she is completely self-confident. 
When she goes out on the tennis court she expects to win. Mostly, she does.
This self-confidence didn’t happen yesterday. 
It grew as she did, from childhood. 
That’s where it usually begins. 
But it can come later.

Self-confidence and self-esteem comes from knowing yourself and what you can do.

SELF-KNOWLEDGE leads to success                                                                                 

Second, she is herself. She knows herself. She was called the next Carling Basset, the next Canadian tennis hope.

This month she broke Canadian records almost every time she took the court and interviewers kept reminding her of what new record she had set.
Finally, she was exasperated and said “I don’t want to be the next some one else. I want to be the first of me…I’ll try to make my own history.”
She’s a success on her own terms. Knowing yourself gives you the guidelines of what you can do. She has developed self-confidence since she was a child but it’s not too late.
And she did and she will continue to.

SELF-BELIEF leads to self-esteem

Third, she believes in herself. 
She goes through rough training never asking quarter but always asking for an explanation of why such and such a task will help her. When her coach explains, she sees the justification, accepts it, and does it. You must believe in yourself but the belief can’t be blind–it must based solidly on self-knowledge

AGGRESSIVELY ATTACKS LIFE

Fourth, she is aggressive on the court. She plays better when she is challenged. She does not flinch when she is behind.

When she was nine, she beat 12-year olds and that opened her eyes, she  said, “to what I could do.” That certainly helped her self-conficence.
She has a twin sister who, she says,  “…is normal. I’m abnormal.” 
Yes, she is, but not in a way others can’t be.  
If you know yourself and believe in yourself almost anything is possible. 

YOU CAN BE LIKE HER–successful

Genie Bouchard concentrating

Genie Bouchard concentrating

 

And if you get to really know yourself, your gifts, talents and abilities, you can turn them into skills and you can be successful too.  

You need to build self-confidence and self-esteem to know what you can do. You do that through self-knowledge.
I can show you how to it at Self-Knowledge College.

You can register free in the box above and to the right!

Join me there for first-rate information about YOU!

Plus, you’ll receive my book Four Questions to Change Your Life!

It’s free too and an immediate download.

I can help.

Frank

Self-esteem comes with self-knowledge and self-love.

Self-esteem comes from self-knowledge and self-love.

There’s no other way to get it.

Here’s a piece on Self-esteem by Helen Nieves writing on Psych Central.Mental Health Awareness

She’s a Mental Health Counselor  who works in New York.

She offers list of 14 ways that may help you to build your self-esteem and feel better about yourself.

“Self-Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time.

Low self esteem may be triggered by your own judgement or by the judgement of others. Low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying your life and working towards goals.”

Self-talk, self-care, and don’t compare yourself to others are strong points among her 14..

Read more here.

When you get to know and realize all the gifts you have (that might not have been nurtured-or even noticed– you will develop self-esteem and with it a better life.

If you are suffering from a lack of self-esteem, write to me: frankdaley@rogers.com.

We can fix this. Truly.

Frank.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Right brain, left brain,which do you use most?

 

Right brain, left brain,which do you use most?

Right Brain, left Brain.

 

http://brain-test.net/braintest/eng/?fb_action_ids=10151956291732062&fb_action_types=og.recommends

The results  do not matter.

Both extremes get a “congratulations”   on the test) as does the almost equal split that I got.

 

It just might help you know yourself a little better!

 

Frank

How to cope with anxiety– from an expert

How to cope with anxiety–from an expert.

Scott Stossel, editor of The Atlantic, is a long-time sufferer of anxiety.
In a piece called Surviving Anxiety he writes about holding down a high-profile, high pressure job while being anxious about…well a lot!
(Photo: Jamie Chung)

(Photo: Jamie Chung)

 

 

Stossel writes:
“I’ve tried therapy, drugs, and booze. Here’s how I came to terms with the nation’s most common mental illness.”
He has trouble with public speaking and flying, two areas of great concern to many.
The article (an excerpt from his book) details how he copes and what we might learn from his experience and analysis. He writes:

“… two double scotches, when administered in quick enough succession, can obscure existential dread, making it seem fuzzier and further away.But none of these treatments has fundamentally reduced the underlying anxiety that seems hardwired into my body and woven into my soul and that at times makes my life a misery.”

Mr Stossel is good and this might help you

Read the article here. (Then come back!)

 Anxiety is a problem for many people.

Some of it is caused by folks being unsure about who they are and what they want with regard to their life’s work, or career, or relationships.

If anxiety is troublesome for you, if it is hampering you from being the best YOU you can be, I can help.

I KNOW self-knowledge can help, even if it is just in knowing what causes you anxiety and how to avoid those things or reduce   your exposure to them.

If  anxiety is stifling you, visit us at Self-Knowledge College.

Sign up and get a lot of free information about the most important person in the world–YOU.

If you want to help others and you are shackled by anxiety you can’t do the best for them.

Fix yourself first.

If you could do this by yourself, you would have done it by now.

Join me at http://www.selfknowledgecollege.com.

I can help through self-knowledge.

Frank

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE: FOUR REASONS WHY I STARTED SKC

 

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE IS BORN!skc aw

FOUR REASONS WHY I STARTED IT.

The Short Back-story.

BUT FIRST…

THIS IS THE SIXTH IN A SERIES OF POSTS ABOUT SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE AND  THE DALEY POST.

YOU CAN ACCESS THE PREVIOUS POSTS BELOW.

No. 1 Jack Nicholson

THE DALEY POST IS BACK! Like JACK NICHOLSON IN THE SHINING…

No. 2 Arnold

As AHHHRNOLD Said in The Terminator… “I’LL BE BACK!”  SO DID THE DALEY POST AND WE’RE ALL BACK!

No. 3 General MacArthur

THE DALEY POST AND GENERAL MacARTHUR  SAID “I SHALL RETURN” AND WE DID!

No. 4 What it looks like

SELFKNOWLEDGE COLLEGE: WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE

No. 5 Why three sites

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE: WHY THREE SITES?

NO ROSE BOWL

I learned hard lessons early about life.

My father abandoned the family when I was seven.

He left my mother who had three children and a fourth on the way.

I was the eldest.

He had his reasons and, given the circumstances, it may have made some sense to him to leave for what he intimated was a valid reason.

Maybe.

It never made sense to me.

To me– at seven– it was incomprehensible.

Inexplicable. I simply could not understand it.

When I got a little older, I thought it was cowardly, reprehensible, unforgivable.

At nine years of age I wanted to tack him down and kill him.

There is a letter acknowledging that fact.

I still think it was all those things, except maybe unforgivable, because I know how people react to life problems now.

I know many people can’t handle life the way they should or they way they want to.

It was 1947. World War II was over; most troops were home.

My father had not signed up for WWII because he had two children and a wife to support and he felt (I later heard) that that was more important. He stayed in Ottawa, Canada and worked.

He and my mother had a third child.

After the war, when the vets came home, he was out of a job.

He tried for a couple of years, getting piecework here and there in various kinds of electronics, mostly radio.

Finally, he decided to try a different city than Ottawa, which is a one-industry– government– town, as the national capital.

At seven, after he left, I felt it was my job to protect and support the family.

It was absurd, of course, and I even knew it at the time, but I felt the pressure of obligation.

After he left, my mother had her fourth child.

Fortunately, I did not feel what many children feel when a parent (usually, but not always, the father) leaves home–that it was my fault.

I did not feel that I was responsible for his leaving.

I did not feel that if I had only behaved better he would have stayed. The notion occurred to me but I knew it wasn’t true and I never thought it was or felt it. I am grateful for not having suffered that burden of guilt because I doubt I would have gone anywhere had I felt it.

However, I knew I was now the “man” of the family. I felt responsible for that.

I also knew there was no way I could handle that role.

What I did was think about my friends. Why did they have two parents and we (my two brothers  and sister and I) had one?

When we had father-and-son nights at school, an uncle took me when he was in town.

The situation concerned me most because of how hard my mother had to work to keep us.

She first went to what passed for family services at the time and they told her to give us–the four children–up for adoption.

That was a short meeting.

My mother was smart, tough and dedicated. Giving up her children was not in the cards.

After that, I did what every kid did: went to school, played baseball, football and (street–ball) hockey. I had (and still have) many good friends from grade and high school although I lost one last week to cancer and heart trouble.

I was interested in life: why things happened the way they did; why people did one thing instead of another; how people made choices, and what happened when they did. How their choices affected other people.

Life was teaching me some hard lessons but I needed to learn faster because I saw certain kinds of things slipping away.

I was getting hard information– facts– but not causality.

I knew shit happened but I didn’t know why it did and I sure didn’t know why it was happening to my family.

So I turned to reading and the theater to learn faster.

In high school, I dropped piano (which I loved) because practice conflicted with play rehearsals. I wrote for the school paper, and wrote and performed stand-up comedy with my best friend.  We still talk every week.

The three fields I considered in high school were law, writing/entertainment (expressed at the time as acting) and the priesthood.

Catholic. You just do think about it. You did then, anyway.

I dropped the priesthood fast, not because of the vows of poverty (I could have handled that) or chastity (although, really, that made no sense to me) but I could not take the vow of obedience.

I had already seen throughout grade and high school that some of the rules and pronouncements from the Church were misguided, wrong-headed, and indefensible, not to mention nuts.

I also had no father as a role model. My grandfather did what he could but we were four children and he was near retirement age and..well, you know.  He certainly helped though.

However, when I looked at the three areas of law, the priesthood and writing/the arts/entertainment, it seemed to me that all three professions dealt with the same thing from different perspectives. They all dealt with the human condition: morality; mortality; right and wrong; good and evil; love and hate—human behavior.

HUMAN BEHAVIOR

I wanted to know everything about human behavior.

I wanted to know why we here on the planet and what we were supposed to do with our lives.

I wanted to know how one determined what  you chose to do, how your figured that out, and how you got there.

If you got there.

I could see already (saw it in grade school: some girls got pregnant , two kids went to jail) that many people not only didn’t get  there (wherever there was supposed to be for them) but they were not going anywhere.

If you didn’t get there, why didn’t you?

What stopped you from being YOU? The best you, you could be?

 GROWING UP

First, how did you decide what you wanted to be when you grew up?

Then, how did you know that was the right choice? Or even in the right ballpark?

And how did these realizations come to you–if they ever did?

In other words, who were you and what did you want?

And what obstacles were there that you had to overcome to get what it was you decided you wanted?

How did you figure out what you wanted and what did you have to do to get it? What road did you have to choose and then actively take?

I thought about those kinds of things from age seven. I remember doing it. (I guess I’m lucky I’m not in a nut house.)

In university, I did a double major: psychology and English. I still did a lot of theater.

While in university, I narrowed my career fields to writing and theater.

I decided against the law because I didn’t want to do corporate or civil law, and criminal law, although attractive, seemed to get bogged down too often in repetitive and trivial cases. I think I could have been a prosecutor or a defender–I saw the virtues in each.

Theater and writing it was. I took my undergraduate degree in Ottawa at Carleton University.

Actually it was at a small, excellent, liberal arts college, St. Patrick’s College, which was a part of the University of Ottawa. But before we graduated, St, Pat’s was traded from U. of O. to Carleton.

For a player to be named later.

Or something.

I studied post-graduate film and psychology in Italy (University of Milan) and theater at Northwestern University in Chicago where I earned an M.A.

CUTTING TO THE CHASE

After graduate school, I was briefly at the Stratford Shakespearean Festival to work in the theater. (Professional theater has been one of my other pursuits.)I was an assistant to a director.

I did a lot of media work: journalism, radio, television, theater and university teaching in various fields of communication for many years.

While dean of English and communications at Seneca, the largest community college in Canada, I saw that the entry-level students were woefully under-prepared in, well, everything.

Many didn’t read and write “too good;” they had few academic skills; in fact, they had almost no learning skills of any kind. Most had no idea why they were in college, let alone the program they were in.

STUDENTS HAVE THREE PROBLEMS

FIRST REASON FOR SKC

They had three main problems: no academic expertise; no self-knowledge (about what program they should be in or what they should be doing after high school at all); and no time management (which is to say, no self-management) skills.

They failed at spectacular rates. They still do.

Just as students did and still do all over North America.

While at the college, I also taught effective presentation (speech writing and delivery) in a university  (Ryerson, in Toronto) at the post-graduate level.

The students were academically fine (many had Phds–one person had two!) but some of them didn’t really know why they were taking a post-graduate degree in the program in which they had registered.

I couldn’t see myself going the VP and ultimately perhaps college president route at Seneca, so I resigned as dean of English and communications at the college to teach. I taught many communications courses; most had to do with writing, theater and student success through self-knowledge.

I discovered that the post-grad university students at Ryerson also profited by learning about themselves.

When people outside academia asked what I did for a living, and I explained how I taught self-knowledge so that people could make better decisions for themselves in all aspects of life, many people replied, “Hey, I could use that!”

That’s one reason I founded Self-Knowledge College.

SECOND REASON FOR SKC: PEOPLE GET OFF TRACK IN LIFE

I realize that people can be weak, fearful, undisciplined and many other unpleasant things. My father certainly was. He was overwhelmed by the circumstances he faced in life and folded.

When I was fifteen, I wanted to kill him for what he had done to my mother and his children.

Then I started to try to understand, not him (I had long stopped caring anything about him), but people in general.

That’s what I have spent my life trying to do.

That’s the second reason I created Self-Knowledge College.

THE THIRD REASON FOR SKC: WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT? 

I also became disillusioned about love and wanted to understand it more.

But that’s another story for another day.

Still, my disillusionment about love prompted a study of it and now I think I get it (as much as anyone can say they get it-which is to say, not much)!

That’s the third reason I founded Self-Knowledge College.

 

THE FOURTH REASON FOR SKC: THIS STUFF IS DOABLE!

The fourth reason I started SKC is that most people do not achieve what they are capable of given their gifts, talents and abilities.

There are many explanations causes and reasons for that.

That’s part of what we’ll explore here on SKC.

There are other reasons I’m doing it, including the fact that I’m getting older, have lived a lot, seen a lot, and paid attention.

But those four are the main ones.

It’s about you and me and what we’re doing on this planet and how we can do it better and how to be more successful at it and happier about it.

 

COMING

I’m preparing several courses to teach some of the things I’ve learned about life and how to live it successfully.

I hope you’ll stay with me for a while as we investigate it together.

 

NEXT: YOUR GIFT FROM ME: A downloadable copy of my book…WAY. )

WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want.

FRANK

 

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE: WHY THREE SITES?

 

Hello,  — Frank here.

Last time, in part  four of this series, I explained HOW three sites make up Self-Knowledge College.

This is part five.

 

IF YOU MISSED THE FIRST FOUR POSTS IN THIS SERIES ON  SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE AND THE DALEY POST: AN INTRODUCTION, you will find them below.

 

No. 1 Jack Nicholson

THE DALEY POST IS BACK! Like JACK NICHOLSON IN THE SHINING…

No. 2 Arnold

As AHHHRNOLD Said in The Terminator… “I’LL BE BACK!”  SO DID THE DALEY POST AND WE’RE ALL BACK!

No. 3 General MacArthur

THE DALEY POST AND GENERAL MacARTHUR  SAID “I SHALL RETURN” AND WE DID!

No. 4 What it looks lik

SELFKNOWLEDGE COLLEGE: WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE

 

Today, I’ll tell you WHY there are three sites and not just one.

Why not just one?

 

Because only one would make things too complicated.
I know, that sounds counter-intuitive. I’ll explain.

 

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE (SKC)  will be home base

It’s for everyone with an interest in improving themselves in any way. Everyone is welcome at SKC.

DROPOUT TO DEAN’S LIST(DDL) is for students

Dropout to Dean’s list, however, focuses on students and their families instead of the general reader as SKC does. So, as a reader, pick your poison!

If info on SKC is suitable for students then we’ll put it there too.

Many topics, such as concentration, memory, time management, procrastination, etc. aren’t restricted to students or workers–they are human subjects. So the same article or a variant may appear in several of our sites.

 THE DALEY POST (TDP) is for communication 

The Daley Post (TDP), the blog (Gag!), will be the communications arm for both divisions (SKC and DDL).

I’d rather call it a newsletter. I’d call it the “paper” but newspapers are behaving like Dodos these days. And the only way they become paper is if you print them.

TDP won’t be just for carpenters, lawyers, women who want to return to work,  students, or people who can’t stand their jobs; it will be for everyone.

However, students are somewhat different because they’ll need some help with practical academic matters such as study skills, taking exams and that sort of thing that most readers don’t require as much.

Although, frankly, with so many working people also taking courses of one kind or another to improve themselves in life, some skill development in academic areas might be helpful for them too. Especially if they have been out of school for a long time.

So, you see my problem trying to handle everything on one site?

If I used only one site it could become too jumbled and confusing. So I went with two. And the newsletter, blog, article and post distribution arm as well  to tie everything together so that makes three.

I’m sorry if it appears confusing at first but I think it is the best way to do it . I’ll try to streamline it as much as possible. For example I’m trying to arrange it so that if you have signed up to both SKC and DDL that you won’t get two copies of The Daley Post as an email system.

I do not want to torture you but my auto-responder system may take a little time to sort that out so if you get duplicate copies of TDP for a while please be patient.

My three sites will also be interconnected, not just interrelated.

That means when you get to one site, you’ll be able to easily navigate with one click, to each of the other two.

I truly hope you enjoy your time here with me. I’ll do everything I can to make it so.

Frank

BLOGS:  YECCHHH!

P.S. Oh, yeah, about that stupid word “blog.”

It was suggested by the old ship’s “log,” wherein the sailors recorded everything that transpired every day at sea.

Then we got the Internet or the Interweb (ha, ha!) or the “web.”

They took the “B’ from “web” and joined it to “log.”

It was then “weblog” but that was deemed too long so they shortened it to “blog.”

Yeah, fine, it’s still a ugly word.

I’ll be writing you notes, posts and short letters on the “Blog.” I’ll also email you. If you feel you are getting too much information, or you hate it, just unsubscribe.

However, this info will be about the most important person in the world.

You.

So stick around for a while–see if you like it!

I sincerely hope you do and that I can be of service to you.

 

Frank

 

P. P. S. In a few days my gift to you will come: a copy of my book WAY
WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know Yourself and get what you want.
NEXT:  Part six: WHY I STARTED SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE

 

SELFKNOWLEDGE COLLEGE: WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE

 

PART FOUR IN THIS SERIES ON THE RETURN OF THE DALEY POST AND THE INTRODUCTION TO SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE

To see earlier posts in the series, please see below.

No. 1 Jack Nicholson

THE DALEY POST IS BACK! Like JACK NICHOLSON IN THE SHINING…

 

No. 2 Arnold

As AHHHRNOLD Said in The Terminator… “I’LL BE BACK!”  SO DID THE DALEY POST AND WE’RE ALL BACK!

 

No. 3 General MacArthur

THE DALEY POST AND GENERAL MacARTHUR  SAID “I SHALL RETURN” AND WE DID!

 

Thanks again for joining me here on The Daley Post.

I hope we get to know each other because this will be a place for you to contribute too, not just me.

Today, I’ll briefly describe Self-Knowledge College.

 

 SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE

Self-Knowledge College (SKC) is the internet college for personal development in the 21st century.

SKC will be home base, our flagship site, the site where I’ll put most of what you might like to know about access and sharing. It will host  information about all our free material and content and about our products and services (courses, books, Ebooks, whitepapers, reports, articles etc.).

I think that Self-Knowledge is practically the key to life. That might seem like an overstatement, even outrageous, but you might agree in a few weeks.

 

THREE BAD THINGS WILL HAPPEN IF YOU DON’T KNOW YOURSELF!

1.    You will not be in the right line of work.
2.    You will not be with the right person.
3.    You will not be happy.

 

You will not be happy because of the first two, of course.

We get only one shot in life and we have to get it right.

 

If you are unhappy in your work or your relationships, you are unhappy, period.
You know that already.

 

You have already lived through it, experienced it.
It’s time to do something about it.

I will guide you how to know yourself and get what you want in your personal and professional life. Unlike many self-development companies, we start with your real core, not superficial appearances.

SKC will have this as a communications arm (The Daley Post) and a second division, Dropout to Dean’s List about which, more later.

THE DALEY POST (TDP)

The Daley Post (TDP) is my blog. (www.thedaleypost.com). This is it.

I’ll be writing on TDP about all things related to the SELF, which is anything that happens in life that has a personal impact.

People are the most complicated things on the planet.

We are much more complicated than computers because of abstractions such as emotions, psychology, philosophy, spirituality and other things that are hard to nail down as one specific thing or another.

will attempt to separate these things so we can look at them individually and see them in focus (where we can). However, we’ll also see how they bump into each other and become other things (we’re getting into physics and chemistry here!).

Much of the time, human behavior is so complicated that it begins to look like phyllo pastry. That wonderful desert has a lot of ingredients but once baked it is impossible to separate them -you just have to enjoy the whole delicious thing at once.

I’ll simply call these things, these components, these aspects of ourselves– what we all call them: things like time and time management (which is really self-management), goals, values, procrastination, productivity and problem solving, etc. All the things that we’d like to get better at so we screw up in life as little as possible.

DROPOUT TO DEAN’S LIST (DDL)

Dropout to Dean’s List (DDL) leads at-risk students to academic and personal success. We specialize in showing dropouts, program switchers and “failures” how to succeed academically no matter what their school record indicates.

Dropout to Dean’s List is for students who want to be successful.

DDL will also be for parents who are ready to sell the kids on the open market and rent their rooms or run screaming into the night because the kids appear to be lost, if not merely screwed up.

Parents know how difficult it is to make your way in life and they are terrified that their children will not be able to do it–for whatever reason. We can provide some guidance.

It’ll also be for grandparents, relatives, guardians, friends, religious leaders, therapists, counselors, schools, colleges and anybody else who wants to help children be more successful and happy.

And heaven knows, many students are unhappy. The dropout and failure rates, the emotional fragility (due to anxiety, and worry and subsequent stress), the self-harming (self-mutilation in the forms of cutting and burning) and suicide rates all testify to that.

College isn’t for everyone and we’ll deal with that too on DDL.

But for those who want to go on to post-secondary school and are losing hope because they have failed to perform at their best levels…we can help at Dropout to Dean’s List.

The site has this url:

http://www.dropouttodeanslist.com )

You can go there, sign up and get two pretty nice presents:

(FREE, OF COURSE, OR THEY WOULDN’T BE PRESENTS!)

The first one is a paper showing how colleges lie about their class time called,

THE CLASS TIME MYTH

(you get that with an opt-in to the DDL list) and the other is a REPORT called

WHY SO MANY COLLEGE STUDENTS DROP OUT AND WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT.

You’ll get that one, ALSO FREE, shortly after signing up.

And we CAN do something about it!

Join and be informed about most things current in education in general and specific ways to help students improve their academic standing in particular.

I’m with you,

Frank

NEXT,   PART 5: Self-Knowledge College–why three sites–divisions–inside the College?

THE DALEY POST AND GENERAL MacARTHUR SAID “I SHALL RETURN” AND WE DID!

Welcome to THE DALEY POST and SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE!

My name is Frank Daley.

I’m the founder of Self-Knowledge College and the publisher of The Daley Post.

Today I’ll show you SKCollege at a glance!

 

I haven’t published The Daley Post for some time for reasons I explained the other day.

(If you missed it, click here.)

 

Here’s no 1.

THE DALEY POST IS BACK! Like JACK NICHOLSON IN THE SHINING…

And #2

As AHHHRNOLD Said in The Terminator… “I’LL BE BACK!”  SO DID THE DALEY POST AND WE’RE ALL BACK!

But, like General Douglas MacArthur, I said I would return and here I am.

GENERAL DOUGLAS  MacARTHUR

 

Gen Douglas MacArthur

General Douglas MacArthur promised the Philippines he’d return to help that country when it was being invaded by the Japanese. He left under cover of darkness on March 11, 1942 when he ran out of reinforcements.

He said then: “I shall return.”

10,000 U.S troops were captured. He escaped to Australia and waged war helping to turn the tide against the Japanese. On Oct 20, 2944 he returned to the Philippines.

THE DALEY POST RETURNS TOO!

OK, It’s not that dramatic for my return with The Daley Post but I did feel I was under siege trying to get my boom finished and three websites up and running! But I’m back and I intend to stay back.

Here on The Daley Post and Self-Knowledge College, we’ll discuss the most important person on the planet–YOU- from many points of view.

It will be about you so it should be interesting!

You’ll be convinced fast that the more you know yourself, the better decisions you will make about your personal, academic and professional life.

WHAT’S COMING!

Soon, you will receive:

  •    A note about our business and the ways we’ll use to contact you.
  •   A note about each of our divisions:

 The Daley Post (where you are now) where I’ll be writing about Self-Knowledge.

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE (SKC), home base

Dropout to Dean’s List, (DDL) a site for at-risk students and their worried parents

  •  A note about my coming gift to you, a downloadable copy of my core book, WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want.
  • I’m giving you this book (it sells for $47at a Toronto college) in thanks for  staying a loyal subscriber when I was away from my Daley Post desk for  almost a year writing two more books and preparing the websites for SKC and Dropout to Dean’s List–which is still under construction–but not for long!

 

Thank you again for joining me.

I hope to surpass your expectations with information about you that you can use to improve your situation in life.

If you have any questions or suggestions for Self-Knowledge College or The Daley Post, please email me at frankdaley@rogers.com.

 

In the meantime, if you like, you can visit us at

http://www.selfknowledgecollege.com or

http://www.thedaleypost.com

 

Life may not be going the way you want it to right now.

We can improve that.

I’ll be with you.

 

NEXT: SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE: What Self-Knowledge College looks like.

As AHHHRNOLD Said in The Terminator… “I’LL BE BACK!” SO DID THE DALEY POST AND WE’RE ALL BACK!

 

As AHHHRNOLD Said in The Terminator…” I’LL BE BACK!”

“Well, AHM BACK!”

 

TERMINATOR WITH GUN

THE DALEY POST IS BACK too!

 

I’M Frank Daley. I’m the publisher of THE DALEY POST and I’m delighted to tell you that we’re back and ready to serve you!

 

This is the second of  a  series of posts explaining where the hell I’ve been and what I’ve been doing and why you should give a hoot. 

 

(If you didn’t see the first one, starring Jack Nicholson, click here!

 

I think the scriptwriters of  Terminator II were  paraphrasing General Douglas MacArthur when they wrote that line for Arnold in the movie.

Arnold did return and so have I.

 

I don’t have a gun, but I have a pen and a computer, cause that’s how I roll (as they say on the street!). (I do have sunglasses!)

The pen is mightier than the sword (or gun) anyway.

 

TDP/SKC: THE STYLE AND THE PROCESS

Thanks for staying with me here at THE DALEY POST and Self-Knowledge College (SKC) while I was AWOL.

I’m back and there shouldn’t be a “break” of the kind we have just experienced again.

I know you are crazy busy and don’t have time to read stuff that is not relevant to your life or where you don’t learn anything or get a laugh or get directed to something of value.

I’ll will try never to disappoint or bore you. That’s not to say you’ll likely agree with everything you’ll find here but then that would be boring!

I aim to give you reliable information on you so you can get to know yourself better.

It won’t be gossipy–this ain’t gonna be the Kardashians!  (Well, OK, if  it’s funny, maybe we will gossip a little, what the hell.)

The information I provide will come from

  • my books, articles and courses
  • from other expert contributors on various topics
  • from reliable sites and writers from around the world.

The topics will cover the range of human behavior

  • from time management to goal-setting.
  • from choosing a career to choosing a mate.
  • from birth to death.

If any fascinating research on human behavior is reported on in the world you can expect to find it here.

Next:  Part three: Self-Knowledge College’s organization at a glance.

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