WELCOME TO THE DALEY POST!

My name is Frank Daley.

I don’t know you yet, although I hope to know you soon.

The problem is, you probably don’t know yourself either and that’s dangerous.

Because…

If you don’t know yourself, three bad things are going to happen to you:

• You won’t be in the right line of work.

• You won’t be with the right person.

• You won’t be happy.

NAME YOUR POISON!                                            

Do you have a problem in your life that is driving you crazy?

You don’t know exactly what it is, and you don’t know how to fix it?

If so, then this is a good place for you.

Do any of these things trouble you?

• Time management?
• Procrastination?
• Goal setting?
• Figuring out what the hell you want to be when you grow up?
• Choosing your mate? Maybe you constantly (more than once!) pick the wrong people to date, live with, (or marry!) and can’t figure out why.
• Relationships (parents, children,  friends, workmates)?  
• Are you are frustrated that you aren’t further along in life? That others–less talented–are getting ahead of you?
• Are you failing at college-or have you already?
• Are you a stay-at-home-mom trying to get back into the workforce?
• Are you torn between children and aging parents and have no time for your own life?

If anay of these ring true, then this is definitely the place for you!

To understand why these things are driving you crazy, you need to know yourself.

There are life-changing benefits to knowing yourself and Self-Knowledge College is the place to do it.

THE GOOD THINGS THAT WILL HAPPEN SOON!

When you figure out why you are on this planet, you will

• Find the person you should be with
• Discover the career you were meant to be in
• Beat procrastination
• Stop getting overwhelmed by time
• Figure out what college program to enroll in
• Become an A/B student
• Improve your relationships

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE

The Daley Post is the communications arm of Self-Knowledge College (SKC).

SKC is devoted to individual self-development for the 21^st century.

It’s about how to be successful in your personal, academic and professional life.

It isn’t a traditional degree-granting college, it’s for self-growth.

It’s for getting better in life and for being successful, happier and more content.

WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER!

I’m here to help you get to know yourself.

Everyone faces serious problems in life and we all want to be better  at solving them. We don’t like

• Hating our jobs
• Not earning enough money
• Not being happy with our chosen mate.
• Being frustrated, angry, or feeling inadequate or unsuccessful
• (HERE, ADD YOUR OWN PARTICULAR IDEA OF TORTURE!)
  

Worse, we don’t want to BE inadequate or unsuccessful.

We all want to improve ourselves, to be the best we can be.

Well, we can be, once we figure out who we are and what we want out of life.

You haven’t figured it out if you hate your job or are distraught at the life you are living with your “significant” other. (A problem may be that he or she isn’t really “significant” at all and you are starting to discover that!)

SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE IS DIFFERENT

There are plenty of self-help sites out there, heaven knows (self-help is also the largest section in any bookstore!), but this one is one is different.

Most other sites give you help with presenting problems to a degree but the results don’t last. (We all know what happens to New Year’s resolutions or buying a membership in a gym!)

Worse, the damn thing returns if you don’t fix the underlying CAUSE of the presenting problem!

Other sites may offer band-aid treatments but I offer life-long solutions!

Self-Knowledge College helps you with your presenting problem (that is, whatever the presenting difficulty is, I can help you with it first–but it also gets you to the core of the problem, the underlying thing that is really causing the problem in the first place. Once you figure that out  you can improve your whole life. Fast!

YOU CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE!

Can you change everything you don’t like about your life overnight? Of course not.

Can you make huge advances in one week? Even in one day? Yes, you can.

Nothing will change, however, if you don’t address the underlying problem of self-knowledge.

It’s like a house: if the roof leaks, you can patch it; if a window is broken you can replace it, but if the foundation is rotten, it needs to be rebuilt.

Break your arm? Fine, fix it. Pull a muscle? Treat it.

Don’t know yourself? You will break down in some way.

Those breakdowns express themselves as

• depression
• anxiety
• loss of focus
• loss of concentration
• failure to plan, etc.

They can be adjusted (some can be medicated–although that is not always the right solution) but the internal engine–that is–YOU– still won’t run properly.

You may need an overhaul. A rebuilt engine.

The only one who can do that satisfactorily is you.

I can help. I can coach. I can teach. I can guide, but really, it’s up to you.

And, not only is it not as bad as it sounds…it’s actually exhilarating!

WHY BOTHER WITH SELF-KNOWLEDGE?

BECAUSE THREE BAD THINGS WILL HAPPENTO YOU WITHOUT IT

GUARANTEED

and I can prove it!

I know, I know, almost everybody says there are no guarantees in life (because shit happens). Yes it does, and more will happen to you if you don’t get this.

This IS a guarantee! Legalisms be damned.

If you don’t know yourself, three bad things are going to happen to you:

• You won’t be in the right line of work.

• You won’t be with the right person.

• You won’t be happy.

 I said that at the beginning of this piece. It’s worth repeating.

Have you experienced being in a crappy job or being with someone who is wrong for you? (The evidence? You left the job or the partner.)

Have you been in a job you hated and with a person you were thinking of leaving?

That situation made you extremely unhappy, right?

Well, unfortunately, you are going to continue to choose jobs and lovers that are not right for you if you don’t get to know yourself. Sadly, you will do this until you die!Sorry, but it’s true.

If you don’t know yourself, you don’t know why you choose a job or a person to date.

Oh, you think you do (or you wouldn’t do it).

The job is great until it’s boring and the person is great until being with him or her starts feeling wrong.

Why didn’t you sense it was wrong in the first place?

Because you don’t know yourself well enough yet. You will, I promise you.           Then you will not select inappropriate partners again. You’ll dismiss them almost immediately.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU!

We need a way to identify what we want in a job or a person.

That involves first figuring out who you are and what you want out of life.

When you get to know yourself—as you will if you stick with me for a while—you are going to know—for certain—what area of work you are passionate about.

You are going to know what talents, gifts and abilities you have and how to marshal them into a successful life in the right job and with the right partner.

You are not going to pick the wrong man or woman or the wrong job again.

I assure you.

I am going to show you the way to know yourself.

It is going to take work and it might seem a little scary (none of us like everything we learn about ourselves) but it is not scary at all . Rather it is going to be exciting because you will be learning more about you and there is no one more important that you!

(They don’t tell you to put the oxygen mask on your face in airplanes before the  putting it on the baby for nothing, you know.)

And I don’t mean you are the most important in a self-aggrandizing or self-entitlement way. No, no, no! That’s a huge contributor to the problems we have in society today.

The opposite of that.

It’s just that if you are not healthy and strong psychically, mentally, emotionally, then it’s impossible for you to be helpful to anyone else.

You can get a lot of free information about YOU here.

I’ll start you off with a  condensed chapter of my book, “Who Are You And What Are You Doing Here?: The way to know yourself and get what you want.”

It’s a paper called Four Questions to Change your life.

There’s no obligation and it’s free. What do you have to lose?

(It will be available shortly. I’ll keep you posted.)

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THE WAY to know yourself and get what you want!

Hello everyone!

Thanks for coming by.

I hope you find  value here.

Other people  have and here’s a sample of what they are saying:

 (I’m going to show you “Marta’s” comments first because she covers it all.)

I think you’ll want to feel like Marta does. She identified two main problem patterns. Onlytwo. But look at the “car crash” of side effects that accompanied these two problems!

One problem is usually connected to others, or it causes others.

She talks about a…

“…lack of assertiveness… impacted my self-esteem, behavior, thoughts and feelings…(and got me) choosing wrong boyfriends, friends, and not making responsible or smart decisions.”

“ I identified two problematic patterns – procrastination and lack of assertiveness – which prevented me from becoming a successful woman.

My procrastination was causing me a lot of stress, and in turn, it had drastically impacted my  self-esteem, behavior, thoughts and feelings.

Similarly, I realized that my self-esteem was affected by my lack of assertiveness, which consequently impacted me in a negative way.

I believe my lack of assertiveness has made me very susceptible to choosing wrong boyfriends, friends, and not making responsible or smart decisions.

My ex-boyfriend, who was a big part of my life, is a reflection of how difficult it was for me to be assertive.

Unfortunately, he knew that my boundaries were not solid, thus he tried to use this to his advantage.

Professor Daley’s method of keeping a daily log of what had to be done on a day-to-day basis was initially easy for me; however, I found it a challenge to follow it. I began breaking up my tasks into smaller tasks.

It took me a week or two to figure out an effective way of dividing my daily tasks into smaller ones, but once I realized that it was easy, I found I had a lot more time for myself.

It also helped me with the anxiety that I associated with tackling the larger task itself.

By having more time for myself, I find that I am not as stressed and I even started going to the gym.

I’m not afraid to go to class now because I have all the work done.

By improving my time management and  eliminating procrastination, I have improved drastically in my academic life.

Assertiveness was another goal I set for myself at the beginning of the course. 

I reflected on what I wanted and what I needed to do to achieve what I wanted.

I began being more assertive with people.

It made me proud of myself and of who I am as a woman. I feel that I have built a foundation, and that I am grounded.

I realized that I am strong and capable of anything.

My ex-boyfriend contacted me recently and I told him to leave me alone. I said it with confidence and integrity. Now, I feel that I know what I want, and that nobody can get in the way of my goals, or break my boundaries.” (Marta S.)

IS THIS WOMAN TERRIFIC OR WHAT?

You can be just like her.

_________________________________________________________________________________________________

 Self-Knowledge College (SKC) was born out of several experiences, once of which was my course, Communication and Problem-Solving, at Seneca College in Toronto.

I am preparing an Internet version of the course. If you would like to know when that course is ready, please  email me: frankdaley@rogers.com

You’ll be the first to know!

In the meantime, I’ll send you a lot of information about how you can get to know yourself better and be more successful in your personal, academic and professional life.

_________________________________________________________________________________________________

NOTES

1.) Many of these testimonials are from students who have taken the college course on which my book, WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want, is based. These comments may say “course” or “book” when referring to the material. It is the same material I will be presenting (in various forms) in the courses I am preparing for you. You can also find a lot of it free on

• THE DALEY POST (http://www.thedaleypost.com)
• SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE  ( where you are now) and
• DROPOUT TO DEAN’S LIST (site under construction).

(As you can see, we’re just getting started here!)

2.) Other comments here are from professionals and general readers whom I have taught, counseled, coached, or consulted for in various ways. In all cases, I have used partial names for which I have been granted use. The material I teach is often personal.

I thank my students and clients for their remarks.

They are a source of great joy and satisfaction to me.

3. For the present, the book, “WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want,” will only be available on-line though my websites and in the courses.

TESTIMONIALS AND COMMENTS

GENERAL COMMENTS

“This should be a mandatory course for… professionals.” (R.P.)

“It’s hard for me to explain how grateful I am. I have turned 180 degrees in the right direction.” (S.L.)

“One of the best experiences of my life!” (S.D)

BEAT PROCRASTINATION

“I was able to figure out solutions to my procrastination.” (Flora P.)

“My life is finally beginning to run smoother.  I no longer let procrastination control my life.  I keep an agenda and plan every day. “(N.D.)

PROBLEM-SOLVING

(FEARS AND DOUBTS) (Going in Right Direction)

“Most of my individual problems connect to every other problem I have in my life.  Throughout this course, I have been finding myself, and learning how to solve those problems.” (Maria F.)

“Before, I was unsure if I was heading in the right direction.  Now I am able to ask myself tough questions and come up with the answers. I have conquered my fears and doubts and look forward to the future!” (Renee I.)

THE SELF

(CHANGED MY LIFE!)

 “This has taught me to look at myself– my behaviors, my dreams, and my being …more closely and analytically than ever before. It has also created in me a sense of confidence about the person I really am, and what my capabilities really are.

 

It has taught me to analyze my weaknesses and shortcomings more realistically and address them more efficiently and effectively than ever before.  This (book) has led me to learn more about who I am and what I need to be doing.  (It) has helped me set goals and prioritize for once in my life.  I am now sure about what I value in life.

 

This book has helped me improve my self-concept by teaching me how to learn more about myself, and understand how to work towards my goals.” (Mona S.)

“I was helpless but now I am confident because I discovered myself.  Self-knowledge is important for success. I have become more independent and can react positively to my own problems. “(Kamila)

“Started me on a path of self-discovery. Very positive experience!” (C. Weir)

“Helped me to better understand myself.” (R. Travolo)

“It has taught me to find myself, love myself and respect myself.”  (S.O.)

“The most important thing we can do as a human being is to know ourselves.  I had doubts about myself because I had failed. Now I know I have it in me to be anything I want to be.

I learned to say ‘no’ and reduce my stress levels. It has emotionally affected me and I can actually say I am ready for any obstacle.  I have grown as a person. I was meant to take this course!” (K.D.)

“I was skeptical at first but I have gotten to know myself and am happy to say it has changed my life.” (N.J)

GOALS AND PRIORITIES

“I now know about my goals and I am just going to get them.” (F. Navid)

“Helped me be more focused, know my priorities and …be better and stronger.”(A. Folkes)

“It made me realize what I really wanted out of life.” (A Karikari)

WHO AM I?

“Helped me get back on track and figure out who I am and where I am going in life.”

(S. Kidikian)

“This (book) has led me to learn more about who I am and what I need to be doing.” (Kamila)

GETTING WHAT I WANT!

“I have learned a lot about myself…I know what I need to  do to get what I want.” (A. Bennett)

“It made me realize what I really want out of life.” (A.K.K.)

MY POTENTIAL

“It helped me realize how much potential I have.”(P. Sheahan)

“I am able to realize where I went wrong and have the ability to change those actions.” (D.C.)

HOW I SCREWED UP AND CAME BACK!

“Made me realize how badly I messed up!” (S. Lewin)

“Put me back on my feet after a big fall!” ( R. Pillar)

“It has taught me a lot about being responsible for my own actions and my life. I was unmotivated, disorganized and disinterested. I was headed for a path of destruction and (that) has all changed. I no longer procrastinate.

 

When I see all the things I have to do it does not leave me overwhelmed; it gives me the feeling of being an important individual with an exciting and meaningful life. With hard work and insight (and in a way foresight) I can be and have what I want. I can be a success. I can be happy!” (D.M.)

SAYING “NO!”

“Now I know I have it in me to be anything I want to be. I learned to say ‘no’ and reduce my stress levels.” (K.D)

STOPPED BAD HABITS

“Most people have no ideas how to fix bad habits or even that they have these habits in the first place. I do now and I can fix them.” (J. Morris)

FOUND THE PATH TO THE FUTURE

“Helped me put serious thought into my future.” (D. Bailey)

“This taught me there is nothing I can’t achieve.” (A.A.)

I DISCOVERED I WAS SMART!

“(How many SMART people  don’t think they are?  Too many. Don’t be one of them!) I can change my “can’ts” to “cans.”  I didn’t feel that I was smart. Now, not only do I know I’m smart but I know I can do anything I want to.” (S.O)

LIFE RUNS SMOOTHER

“My life is finally beginning to run smoother. I no longer let procrastination control my life. I keep an agenda and plan every day.  Even though I am still rough around the edges I have made a vast improvement. I feel different inside like I am ready for change. I will be such a wonderful student in the fall!” (N.D.)

GET RID OF BAD BOY FRIENDS!

“Boyfriends and partying are not worth the money and time.” (N.J.)

LOVE

“One of the most helpful chapters was the one on love.” (J.D.)

“It has taught me to find myself, love myself and respect myself.”  (S.O.)

HERE’S MARTA AGAIN BECAUSE SHE’S JUST TOO TERRIFIC! 

“At the beginning of this semester, I had identified two problematic patterns – procrastination and lack of assertiveness – which prevented me from becoming a successful student, and a successful woman. My procrastination was causing me a lot of stress, and in turn, it had drastically impacted my grades, self-esteem, behavior, thoughts and feelings. Similarly, I realized that my self-esteem was affected by my lack of assertiveness, which consequently impacted me in a negative way. I believe my lack of assertiveness has made me very susceptible to choosing wrong boyfriends, friends, and not making responsible or smart decisions.

 

My ex-boyfriend, who was a big part of my life, is a reflection of how difficult it was for me to be assertive. Unfortunately, he knew that my boundaries were not solid, thus he tried to use this to his advantage. Professor Daley’s method of keeping a daily log of what had to be done on a day-to-day basis was initially easy for me; however, I found it a challenge to follow it. I began breaking up my tasks into smaller tasks. It took me a week or two to figure out an effective way of dividing my daily tasks into smaller ones, but once I realized that it was easy, I found I had a lot more time for myself. It also helped me with the anxiety that I associated with tackling the larger task itself. By having more time for myself, I find that I am not as stressed and I even started going to the gym.I’m not afraid to go to class now because I have all the work done.

 

 

By improving my time management and eliminating procrastination, I have improved drastically in my academic life. Assertiveness was another goal I set for myself at the beginning of the course.  I reflected on what I wanted and what I needed to do to achieve what I wanted.

 

I began being more assertive with people. It made me proud of myself and of who I am as a woman. I feel that I have built a foundation, and that I am grounded.

I realized that I am strong and capable of anything.

 

My ex-boyfriend contacted me recently and I told him to leave me alone. I said it with confidence and integrity. Now, I feel that I know what I want, and that nobody can get in the way of my goals, or break my boundaries.” (Marta S.)

_________________________________________________________________________________________________

 DON’T YOU LOVE HER?

I LOVE HER!

I didn’t make this stuff up!

I didn’t pay any of these people.

They aren’t actors doing commercials.

And I have 500 more testimonials just like this.

You can have the same results in your life if you get to know yourself.

No, WHEN you get to know yourself!

I assure you.

In a few weeks you can legitimately, happily, tell me how terrific you are, how much more confident you are!

How much better you feel about yourself and your life.

Just follow me.

Sign up for my emails and when the course is ready—don’t worry I’ll tell you when it is–you will get first crack at it!

I promise!

Are you still thinking about this?

What the hell have you got to lose?

It’s your life!

You’re a long time dead!

SIGN UP AND WHEN IT’S READY I’LL SEND YOU DETAILS ABOUT THE COURSE

Then you can change your life.

Start by signing up and receiving my free Ebook,

FOUR QUESTIONS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

I’ll take it from there!

But read on because while I will get this course ready, I’m going to provide you with the course on love which I describe below.

Why?

Because my readers have asked for it!

Many people have told me in recent months that time management or goal setting or procrastination are problems for them but…

More people have said that the main problem in their lives is their inability (so far) to find a good life partner.

Scores of people have said that they can’t figure out why in hell they continue to date (or marry) the wrong people.

People ranging in age from early 20s to late 60s say they are sensible, educated, attractive, honest, good at their jobs, friendly, outgoing, loving, and still they can’t seem to find the right mate. Something always screws it up.

Self-knowledge is the key to fixing that.

If you don’t know yourself, it’s pretty hard to describe who the “I” is when you say “I love you” to someone.

I can teach you how to know yourself. When you do, it will not automatically deliver the right person to your door in a limo but it sure as hell will fix the problem of dating the wrong people.

You will never go out with a loser again.

That I can guarantee.

A good man is hard to find…but not impossible. Or a good woman either.

I’m preparing a six-week program to eliminate the possibility of you ever dating the wrong person again.

It will teach you how to know yourself and love yourself first.

There’s a lot of blue-sky, soft, dreamy, wimpy, hope-and-pray stuff out there about loving yourself. Everything gets pretty abstract and mushy. A lot of Cosmo stuff, a lot of superficial law of attraction stuff.

A lot of crap actually.

Not here. I don’t do that.

Here are the basics.

Understand these two concepts and I believe you will trust me.

FIRST, if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else. (You can’t give away what you don’t have.)

And if you don’t love yourself you can’t accept love from anyone else because you will think you “know the truth” about yourself—that you are not loveable, not worthy, not good enough.

It is nonsense but if you believe it, people will sense it and draw away.

You will send them away.

And you will never understand why.

SECOND: If you don’t know yourself three bad things will happen to you:

• You won’t be in the right job
• You won’t be with the right person
• You won’t be happy.

You won’t be happy, of course, because of the first two things.

 You know this already in your heart from your own life experience. You know it’s true.

I can help you change that in six weeks.

Just email me for more information on my course, HOW TO STOP DATING LOSERS AND FIND A GOOD MAN!

 You won’t regret it.

HOW TO STOP DATING LOSERS AND FIND A GOOD MAN!

Email me at  frankdaley@rogers.com.

I’ll get right back to you!

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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE

THE WAY to know yourself and get what you want!

Hello readers!

Thanks for coming by.

Here’s a sample of what people are saying about SKC.

I’m going to show you “Marta’s” comments first because she covers it all!

Read this. I think you’ll want to feel like she does!

Marta identified two main problem patterns. Only two.

But look at the “car crash” of side effects that accompanied these two problems!

As you well know, when we have one problem it is usually connected to others, or it causes others. She talks about a…

(Does this sound like anyone you know?)

HERE SHE GOES!

IS THIS WOMAN TERRIFIC OR WHAT?

You can be just like her.

______________________________________________________________________________

Self-Knowledge College (SKC) was born out of several experiences, once of which was my course, Communication and Problem-Solving, at Seneca College in Toronto.

I am preparing an Internet version of the course. If you would like me to tell you when that course is ready, please sign up to my special email and newsletter list.

If you don’t see it on the blog, just email me: frankdaley@rogers.com

You’ll be the first to know!

In the meantime, I’ll send you a lot of information about how you can get to know yourself better and be more successful in your personal, academic and professional life.

NOTES:

1. Many of these testimonials are from students who have taken the college course on which my book, WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want, is based. These comments may say “course” or “book” when referring to the material. It is the same material I will be presenting (in various forms) in the courses I am preparing for you. You can also find a lot of it free (and sometimes for a fee) on

• The Daley Post (where you are now) and on the sites
• SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE and
• DROPOUT TO DEAN’S LIST (when those sites are constructed).

(As you can see we’re just getting started here!)

1. Other comments here are from professionals and general readers whom I have taught, counseled, coached, or consulted for in various ways. In all cases, I have used partial names for which I have been granted use. The material I teach is often personal.

I thank my students and clients for their remarks.

They are a source of great joy and satisfaction to me.

1. For the present, the book, “WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want,” will only be available on-line though my websites and in the courses.

TESTIMONIALS AND COMMENTS

GENERAL COMMENTS

BEAT PROCRASTINATION

PROBLEM-SOLVING

(FEARS AND DOUBTS) (Going in Right Direction)

THE SELF

(CHANGED MY LIFE!)

GOALS AND PRIORITIES

WHO AM I?

GETTING WHAT I WANT!

MY POTENTIAL

HOW I SCREWED UP AND CAME BACK!

SAYING “NO!”

STOPPED BAD HABITS

FOUND THE PATH TO THE FUTURE

I DISCOVERED I WAS SMART!

LIFE RUNS SMOOTHER

GET RID OF BAD BOY FRIENDS!

LOVE

HERE’S MARTA AGAIN BECAUSE SHE’S JUST TOO TERRIFIC!

______________________________________________________________________________

DON’T YOU LOVE HER?

I LOVE HER!

I didn’t make this stuff up!

I didn’t pay any of these people.

They aren’t actors doing commercials.

And I have 500 more testimonials just like this.

You can have the same results in your life if you get to know yourself.

No, WHEN you get to know yourself!

I assure you!

In a few weeks you can legitimately, happily, tell me how terrific you are, how much more confident you are!

How much better you feel about yourself and your life.

Just follow me.

Sign up for my emails and when the course is ready—don’t worry I’ll tell you when it is–you will get first crack at it!

I promise!

Are you still thinking about this?

What the hell have you got to lose?

It’s your life!

You’re a long time dead!

SIGN UP AND WHEN IT’S READY I’LL SEND YOU DETAILS ABOUT THE COURSE

Then you can change your life.

Start by signing up and receiving my free Ebook,

FOUR QUESTIONS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE!  (opt in box)

I’ll take it from there!

I’m beside you!

But read on because while I will get this course ready, I’m delaying it so I can provide you with the shorter course I describe below.

Why?

Because my readers have asked for it!

Frank

P.S. Many people have told me in recent months that time management or goal setting or procrastination are problems for them but…

More people have said that the main problem in their lives is their inability (so far) to find a good life partner.

Scores of people have said that they can’t figure out why in hell they continue to date (or marry) the wrong people.

People ranging in age from early 20s to late 60s say they are sensible, educated, attractive, honest, good at their jobs, friendly, outgoing, loving, and still they can’t seem to find the right mate. Something always screws it up.

Self-knowledge is the key to fixing that.

If you don’t know yourself, it’s pretty hard to describe who the “I” is when you say “I love you” to someone.

I can teach you how to know yourself. When you do, it will not automatically deliver the right person to your door in a limo but it sure as hell will fix the problem of dating the wrong people.

You will never go out with a loser again.

That I can guarantee.

A good man is hard to find…but not impossible. Or a good woman either.

I’m preparing a six-week program         to eliminate the possibility of you ever dating the wrong person again.

It will teach you how to know yourself and love yourself first.

There’s a lot of blue-sky, soft, dreamy, wimpy, hope-and-pray stuff out there about loving yourself. Everything gets pretty abstract and mushy. A lot of Cosmo stuff, a lot of superficial law of attraction stuff.

A lot of crap actually.

Not here. I don’t do that.

Here are the basics.

Understand these two concepts and I believe you will trust me.

FIRST, if you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else. (You can’t give away what you don’t have.)

And if you don’t love yourself you can’t accept love from anyone else because you will think you “know the truth” about yourself—that you are not loveable, not worthy, not good enough.

It is nonsense but if you believe it, people will sense it and draw away.

You will send them away.

And you will never understand why.

SECOND: If you don’t know yourself three bad things will happen to you:

• You won’t be in the right job
• You won’t be with the right person
• You won’t be happy.

You won’t be happy, of course, because of the first two things.

You know this already in your heart from your own life experience. You know it’s true.

I can help you change that in six weeks.

Just click here for more information on my course, HOW TO STOP DATING LOSERS AND FIND A GOOD MAN!

You won’t regret it.

If the link doesn’t work (Did I mention we’re just getting started?!)   send me an email expressing your interest in

HOW TO STOP DATING LOSERS AND FIND A GOOD MAN!

Email me at  frankdaley@rogers.com.

I’ll get right back to you!

I’m with you!

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WORLD’S BEST STRATEGY, PERIOD!

There is no time. We never have enough. Most people fail at time managemnt for all kinds of reasons. (Too busy is one!)  But help is at hand!

Try this. LISTING. It curbs procrastination. It saves time and increases productivity. And you’ll get immediate results!

Some people don’t like making lists. I do. I think it’s crucial.

There are many kinds of lists but here’s the one you need to make every day of your business or personal life to increase you chances of success.

This fast Listing technique will save you time, energy, and stress.

You’ll manage time better and your work will be superior.

You’ll reduce procrastination, which is like money in the bank!

                                               FOLLOW THESE FIVE STEPS

1. At the end of every day, write down the five most important things you need to work on the next morning. It doesn’t matter if its your personal or work life. (You should proably make two lists, one for personal things and one for work, but you don’t have to.)

Do the things on your list in priority order, No 1 being the most important, the most crucial.

2. Next morning, work on No 1 until you can’t work on it any more–for whatever reason–no access to required information, inability to contact the person you need to speak to, a broken computer,  a killer hangover, whatever.

3. Then work on No 2. Do the same thing. Work on it until you are stopped by external forces… not by your fears, distractions or snacks. This time management strategy will startle you with its immediate beneficial results.

4. Continue in this way until you have worked on all 5 items. Work on each one until you can’t accomplish any more with it.

5. Move on to lesser tasks.

That’s it. No six weeks to learn it. Oh, it may take you  a few days to incorporate it into your routine automatically, but really, you should be able to do this overnight.

Can this regime be broken? NO.

OK, YES, BUT only for these two reasons.

                                TWO REASONS ALLOW YOU TO BREAK THE REGIME

1. IF you have a pressing, critical problem (you need to see a dentist right now!; the baby is crying; you just spilled coffee on your pants).

2. IF there are a few little, tiny, wee, matters to deal with:  (a couple of brief–semi-urgent–phone calls, a bathroom visit, or lunch. (You can often eat at your desk unless you NEVER take breaks, in which case you need to take a break.) Do these little tasks all on a break.

That’s it.

                                                                NONE OF THIS!

• No MSN
• No emails
• No texting
• No Googling
• No phone calls
• No newspapers,
• No-online reading
• No joke opening from friends
• No checking out the “best travel deal to Mexico”
• No social media–Face Book, LinkedIn Twitter– etc.
• Nothing.
• Niente.
• Nada.

OK, so.

To employ this time management strategy, do this LISTING with the 5-points every day. Top five things. Spend as much time on each one sequentially, as you can, before you are stopped by external forces. Stopped by life, not by you.

Move to the next one.

Repeat the next day. This is crucial.

Do this every day. Call me in a month for praise.(I’m not kidding!)  You’ll have time because you’ll have  improved your time managment significantly.

For more free infomation on time, procrastination, or productivity please sign up  to my email list above and immediately get my paper Called FOUR QUESTIONS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE. It’s free!  It doesn’t deal directly with time but indirectly it has everything to do with it.

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HOW ARE YOU GOING TO USE IT?

Afraid of time running out?

You can’t know the future but you can know yourself. That will help you manage the future more successfully.

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Faye Weldon, a British author wrote:

Faye Weldon

“Young women, especially have something invested in being
nice people,and it’s only when you have children that you
realize you’re not a nice person at all, but generally a
selfish bully.”

Ooops!

I’m sure many women might agree with that (many men too!)
but more would not!

(Somewhat off the point, but for your amusement, I have to
report that Ms. Weldon, when a copywriter, once wrote,
“Vodka gets you drunker quicker.”

She said in a Guardian interview,

“It just seemed … to be obvious that people who wanted to get drunk fast, needed to know this.”

Which I thought was pretty funny.

Her bosses didn’t use the comment.

Her husband, Ron Weldon, left her for his astrological
therapist who had told him that the couple’s astrological
signs were incompatible.
Apparently, they were both a little off the wall.)

In any case, she is supported in this, by many.

The French actress, Emmanuelle Beart, echoing a lot of women,
said:

“I just decided that I would not put my professional life on
hold to raise children.
I know that sounds selfish to a lot of people and I don’t know
if what I’m doing is the right thing. But that’s the way I’m
doing it.”

Emmanuelle Beart

Indicating a real problem many people have in the tug-of-war
between themselves and their children.

This is true of artists–who predictably–are more forthcoming
about solutions for the problem.

Mikhail Baryshnikov said:

“People of art should never get married and have children, because it’s a selfish experience.”

But Greg LeMond, a race track driver, also said,

“Racing is a very selfish, self-centred, self-glorifying thing.
My wife’s life for 14 years was centered around me.
It was all about me. It was all for my ego.”

Parents often have this problem.

I think, on some level, all parents do.

How they deal with it varies, of course, but all must wrestle
with the implications, for their lives, and for their
children’s lives.

On the biggest level,it has enormous impact on families:
whether they break up, stay together “for the sake of the
children,” or work it out in compromise and love and stay
together knowing that some of what they wanted in life will
never be achieved.

Other things,however, might satisfactorily replace them.

Think of all the well-educated immigrants who move to countries
so their children can have a better life.
They work menial jobs to give their kids a chance.

In some cases, what people thought they wanted, isn’t what
they wanted at all.

But it keeps people up in the middle of the night.

Nobody said it was easy.

Next time we’ll look at selfishness as it applies to love.

I’m with you in this. If you are not a member, join us . Just put your John or Joanna Henry in the box and I’ll start sending you good things.

Frank

SELF SERIES 1: WHATEVER YOU DO TONIGHT, PLEASE DON’T BE YOURSELF!

SELF SERIES 2: DO IT YOURSELF: KNOW YOURSELF. Are you You? Do you even know YOURSELF?

SELF SERIES 3: SEARCHING FOR YOURSELF? FLYING BLIND? Need a new search party? Try you!

SELF SERIES 4: THE SELF: DO YOU FIND YOURSELF OR CREATE IT? AND WHY BOTHER ANYWAY?

SELF SERIES 5: Sarah Slean: The girl knows who she is and what she wants to do!

SELF SERIES 6: Self-discovery without Self-Viagra. Absent good parents you’ll need it.

SELF SERIES 7: “SELFISH” VS “SELFLESS”

SELF SERIES 8: SELFISHNESS. Always wrong? Or can it be a form of self-preservation?

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Is selfishness always wrong?

Are there good kinds of selfishness?

Can it be a form of self-preservation?

Does it depend on our definition of selfishness?

This is part 8 in our series on the Self and its meaning.
…………………………………………………………………………

Before we come to any conclusions regarding conventional wisdom,
let’s look at the Oxford definition.

SELFISH DEFINED

“Concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure
at the expense of consideration for others.”

That’s a pretty well accepted definition, isn’t it?

We think of being selfish as somewhat mean-spirited but
“mean-spirited” implies that someone actually thought about
NOT being selfish and acted that way anyway.

Maybe the person was just thoughtless.

But thoughtlessness, although connected to selfishness, ISN”T
always selfishness, except in its mildest form.
So let’s not go there.

Instead, let’s focus on the two key words/phrases:
“personal profit” and “pleasure.”

Then let’s eliminate the most obvious cases of these kinds
of selfishness: personal profit for money and pleasure of the senses.

Those are too easy!

REAL LIFE

Let’s apply the definition to a common situation.
Two children are born, both talented, smart.
Dad dies. Mom gets sick.

One child gives up a promising career to care for her mother.
The other child leaves home and spends her life in her own way.

Let’s admit that the person who left did so because she was
concerned with profit (of various kinds, not necessarily financial).

The word “profit” would not occur to her in this context,

Free. Photo: Christine Labrasseur

much less motivate her) but we’re going with the definition.
She would profit in many ways perhaps–financially, socially,
career-wise, etc.

She WOULD get more pleasure because she wouldn’t be tied down
and (not quite the same thing, but actually a grade above
being tied down) she would be free to pursue her own interests.

So, according to the definition, the one who left is selfish.

BUT!

Let’s say that the woman who left did so because she felt
she would ruin her life by staying home and wasting her talent
…talent that her mother wanted her to develop.

Let’s say she felt that, though she loved her mother, she would
fulfill her destiny by NOT sacrificing her life to care for her mom.

Let’s say she would not want her own child to do that either.

We might have to broaden the meaning of the words “profit”
and pleasure” in our definition in order not to be too harsh.

(Maybe.)

Because the woman who left (let’s assume) was following her
gifts, talents and abilities.

If she doesn’t do that she will be unhappy every day for the
rest of her life. (At least that’s what she truly believes.)

She acts upon that.
She loves her self more than her mother?

The woman who stays, acts upon her duty to care for her mother,
putting aside her talents, (let’s say–in the extreme case)
and devoting herself to her mother.

She loves her mother more than herself?

“No greater love than a woman) lay down her life…”

Yet is she dooming herself to a life of resentment and

Trapped. Photo: Ditao, F.

unhappiness at not being able to grow her gifts and abilities?

Will the one who left be unhappily wracked with guilt?

We don’t know.

But maybe the one who stayed finds enormous love and peace in her role and doesn’t miss worldly success.

And maybe the one who left, fights guilt but generally finds
that she made the right decision for herself.

And what of the relationship between the sisters?

We don’t know.

The thing is we all have to make decisions about what we choose
to do in life, what action we take in critical situations
or circumstances.

We know that whatever we learn about the self, it will
always relate in some way to love.

We’ll continue next time. If you like this piece, send it to a friend.

And sign up above to The Daley Post, if you want more like this.

Frank

SELF SERIES 1: WHATEVER YOU DO TONIGHT, PLEASE DON’T BE YOURSELF!

SELF SERIES 2: DO IT YOURSELF: KNOW YOURSELF. Are you You? Do you even know YOURSELF?

SELF SERIES 3: SEARCHING FOR YOURSELF? FLYING BLIND? Need a new search party? Try you!

SELF SERIES 4: THE SELF: DO YOU FIND YOURSELF OR CREATE IT? AND WHY BOTHER ANYWAY?

SELF SERIES 5: Sarah Slean: The girl knows who she is and what she wants to do!

SELF SERIES 6: Self-discovery without Self-Viagra. Absent good parents you’ll need it.

SELF SERIES 7: “SELFISH” VS “SELFLESS”

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We’re talking about the self in this series.  This is no 7.

We introduce the word and concept of Selfishness.

Image: Amadeo78

We have to figure out who we are and what we want in life.
A person has to spend time on his or her SELF.

We can’t spend ALL of our time on ourselves.
We have to take others into our consideration, into our purview
of what belongs to our selves.

Of course, that’s right.

What happens when we seem to be spending all or most of our time and efforts on others?

What if we’re not being selfish, but selfless?

Often people think you are selfish if you spend ANY time on
yourself–especially when you have responsibility for others.

Women, after they are married, are often known as wives, mothers, homemakers (if they are doing that) and providers.

They often get the sense that they have lost them-Selves in
this work. They feel the world looks at them in only those
roles.

This gets to become more acute when women pass a certain age,
when, aside from the roles I’ve mentioned, women feel they
are non persons in any other sense.

On the street, men no longer look at them as attractive.
Scratch that: they no longer look at them at all!

Not worth a swiveled heard of admiration.

Or seen as anything except in those other roles.
Which is to say, often, as nothing at all.

A man too, although it is not recognized or discussed much,
can be considered (or at least consider himself) to be a husband,
worker,and father.

And not much else.
Gone are other kinds of self-identifiers for many people.

I’m not saying it’s wrong, that it doesn’t indicate a maturity.
Just that a part of what used to be considered at least part of
the self, seems to have disappeared.

Thinking about your self in this way is not wrong.

It is being self-ish in the sense that what we are doing
is related to the self.

But it is not mean-spirited or wrong.
Could be that it is being selfless, not selfish?

If we don’t figure this out (and maybe beating ourselves up)
we won’t have a grown-up self.

And heaven knows in this world, we need to be grown-ups.

Tell your significant other he or she is beautiful.

They are.

I’m with you on this!

For more information on you, please sign up for my series of emails.

Right at the top. To your right.

Frank

SELF SERIES 1: WHATEVER YOU DO TONIGHT, PLEASE DON’T BE YOURSELF!

SELF SERIES 2: DO IT YOURSELF: KNOW YOURSELF. Are you You? Do you even know YOURSELF?

SELF SERIES 3: SEARCHING FOR YOURSELF? FLYING BLIND? Need a new search party? Try you!

SELF SERIES 4: THE SELF: DO YOU FIND YOURSELF OR CREATE IT? AND WHY BOTHER ANYWAY?

SELF SERIES 5: Sarah Slean: The girl knows who she is and what she wants to do!

SELF SERIES 6: Self-discovery without Self-Viagra. Absent good parents you’ll need it.

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SEARCHING FOR YOURSELF? FLYING BLIND?

Need a new search party?

Try you!

(THIS IS Part 3 in our series on the definition of the SELF.

For earlier posts, see the bottom of this piece.)

When children play Hide and Seek, at least the searchers know
who they’re looking for.

Do we know who we’re searching for when we’re looking for
ourselves?

Not usually.

Which means we’re flying, or searching blind

Because if we don’t know what we’re looking for there’s no
chance we’ll find it.

If we don’t know what the SELF IS, LOOKS LIKE, or APPEARS
to be in its many disguises, what chance to do we have of
finding it?

In this series we’re figuring out how to DEFINE the “self”
before trying to FIND it.

We require a clear and unambiguous definition of the SELF so
that we can recognize it when we discover it.

BASIC DEFINITION OF SELF (Oxford)

a) A person’s essential being; that which distinguishes a
person from another; or,

b) A person’s particular nature or personality; or,

c) Your consciousness of your own identity; or,

d) A person considered as a unique individual; or,

e) One’s own self.

All right, let’s break it down.
What does “essential being” mean?

Whatever “distinguishes a person from another.”

That could be on the inside or the outside of the person,yes?

If it’s an EXTERNAL attribute, such as height, weight,
color of skin, eyes, or hair, for example, it’s considered
an “accidental” in philosophical terms.

That doesn’t mean that those things are “accidents” like a
car crash, although the way some people dress, from the
outside they do LOOK like car crashes.

(I digress.)

It just means that those external things don’t change the
essential, or underlying, or basic nature of the person.
The true SELF.

ACCIDENTALS AND ESSENTIALS

John had hair when he was young. Now he’s bald.
He’s still John.
Baldness is an “accidental.”  It does not affect who he is.

An “essential” might be his quality of honesty, or fairness
or intelligence.
The combination of essentials in your personal make-up is
what makes you,YOU: your nature and personality.

Part of the self (this gets us into DIFFERENT and complex
territory), is the AWARENESS of one’s self.
That is, “Your consciousness of your own identity.”

Well, that seems easy, right?
We just look in the mirror and we know it’s us.
But not everyone can do that.
A person has a self but he/she doesn’t necessarily know all
of what it is.

ALZHEIMER’S AND THE SELF

People with Alzheimer’s are who they are but they often don’t
recognize themselves.
Even in a mirror.

There is a discussion we could have here about whether the
advanced Alzheimer patient IS who he USED to be.
(We won’t go there yet!)

People say of an Alzheimer patient:

“He’s not the same person anymore” or,
“My mother doesn’t know me anymore.”
“And she doesn’t know who SHE IS either.”

And,”She doesn’t seem to be the same person as she was.”

We’re unsure about how this affects the notion of “Self.”
(No kidding!)

Difficult stuff, but let’s not get too far from the basics.

Next, we’ll look at what is a “unique Individual”–as
alluded to at the beginning of this piece.

Stay with me.

Frank

SELF SERIES 1: WHATEVER YOU DO TONIGHT, PLEASE DON’T BE YOURSELF!

SELF SERIES 2: DO IT YOURSELF: KNOW YOURSELF. Are you You? Do you even know YOURSELF?

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