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Across playgrounds, schoolyards and classrooms, it is common to hear well-intentioned parents, caregivers and teachers heap high praise on children — particularly those with low self-esteem.
But a new study suggests that when adults shower children with compliments to try to boost their self-esteem, it has the opposite effect, sending the message that they must continue to meet very high standards and discouraging them from taking on new, confidence-boosting challenges, lest they fail.
Read Catherine Pearson’s entire post, published on the Huffington Post HERE.
If your child thinks he should be “killing it” at school but is actually getting “killed” academically, or if you are a student who can’t figure out why you aren’t doing better…
If you are student having trouble, contact me at email@example.com.
Contact me at Dropout to Dean’s list.
I’m with you.
I’m the founder of Self-Knowledge College and the publisher of The Daley Post.
Today I’ll show you SKC at a glance!
I haven’t published The Daley Post for some time for reasons I explained the other day.
(If you missed it, click here.)
Here’s no 1.
As AHHHRNOLD Said in The Terminator…”I’LL BE BACK!” SO DID THE DALEY POST AND WE’RE ALL BACK!
But, like General Douglas MacArthur, I said I would return and here I am.
GENERAL DOUGLAS MacARTHUR
General Douglas MacArthur promised the Philippines he’d return to help that country when it was being invaded by the Japanese. He left under cover of darkness on March 11, 1942 when he ran out of reinforcements.
He said then: “I shall return.”
10,000 U.S troops were captured. He escaped to Australia and waged war helping to turn the tide against the Japanese. On Oct 20, 2944 he returned to the Philippines.
THE DALEY POST RETURNS TOO!
OK, It’s not that dramatic for my return with The Daley Post but I did feel I was under siege trying to get my boom finished and three websites up and running! But I’m back and I intend to stay back.
Here on The Daley Post and Self-Knowledge College, we’ll discuss the most important person on the planet–YOU- from many points of view.
It will be about you so it should be interesting!
You’ll be convinced fast that the more you know yourself, the better decisions you will make about your personal, academic and professional life.
Soon, you will receive:
A note about our business and the ways we’ll use to contact you.
A note about each of our divisions:
The Daley Post (where you are now) where I’ll be writing about Self-Knowledge.
SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE (SKC), home base
DROPOUT TO DEANS LIST, (DDL) a site for at-risk students and their worried parents
I’m giving you this book (it sells for $47at a Toronto college) in thanks for staying a loyal subscriber when I was away from my Daley Post desk for almost a year writing two more books and preparing the websites for SKC and Dropout to Dean’s List–which is still under construction–but not for long!
Thank you again for joining me.
I hope to surpass your expectations with information about you that you can use to improve your situation in life.
If you have any questions or suggestions for Self-Knowledge College or The Daley Post, please email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
In the meantime, if you like, you can visit us at:
Life may not be going the way you want it to right now.
We can improve that.
I’ll be with you.
Thank you for waiting and being a loyal subscriber!
I haven’t written on The Daley Post (TDP) for some time now as you well know!–not having see me here!
I’ll explain why, and tell you what I’ve been doing, what’s new, what’s coming and then I’m going to give you a present!
THE DALEY POST
I began with this blog, The Daley Post, to familiarize myself with the process, learn some of the technology and get my feet wet.
SKC and DDL weren’t created yet. In fact, Dropout To Dean’s List is still under construction–but it’s nearly ready.
Simultaneously, I published my book, WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want. (WAY for short!)
SELF KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE
The book (WAY) and my new site, SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE, which is opening the first week of June, are for people who have a serious problem in life but they don’t know what that problem is exactly and so they don’t know how to solve it.
It’s difficult for people even to talk about this kind of general problem when it befalls us because it is like nailing Jello or finding a tree in the mist.
At times it seems beyond our ability to grasp it.
Sometimes we just can’t put our finger on why we are dissatisfied in life, or why we seem to be falling behind others, or we aren’t as far along in our careers as we figured we should be–would be–by now.
We feel that way because life is complicated and we are busy, true, but it’s also because we often don’t know ourselves well enough to make the best decisions for ourselves regarding our work, education, career choice or love life.
We start to try to make a decision about something in our life–work, a new job or career path, even something as simple as starting a hobby and then…nothing.
Wed don’t follow up. We lose, if not exactly interest, we lose some kind of drive that would allow us to fully investigate whatever we thought we wanted t try.
Then we do this again.
Finally,we come to the point where we don’t trust ourselves about decisions any more (because we think, well they haven’t panned out) and we just stop trying new things or investigating what the little voice in our head says when it suggests: ‘”DO THIS!”
We make mistakes.
That’s natural, we all do but when we continue to make mistakes or when we make the same mistakes time after time–such as dating the wrong people or choosing the wrong career path–it causes serious problems for us and our families and gets ‘way beyond frustrating.
We can become first, anxious, then sad, and then depressed.
It hurts; and we might go into a spiral that seems unstoppable.
We start developing presenting problems–things we do or can’t seem to do-that hurt us even more.
Many of them are related to things such as time management, (which is really self-management), procrastination, goal-setting, the inability to say “NO.”
Things like that.
Many people balk at first when I mention self-knowledge because they think it’s too strange but they sure know what I mean when I speak of things like procrastination or constantly choosing the wrong person to date.
Those, however, are exactly signs of a lack of self-knowledge.
That’s what I’ll be writing about on SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE and THE DALEY POST.
I had to spend time creating and building the site for SELF-KNOWLEDGE COLLEGE .
It’s ready now and I’ll start writing on it and The Daley Post again.
In the next few emails I’ll tell you more about the plan and how I’m going to get you more information about YOU in the coming months.
DROPOUT TO DEAN’S LIST
I was also building my sister site, Dropout to Dean’s List. It’s still under construction but I’ll tell you more about that in a day or so.
It will be for at-risk students and their worried parents.
THE “WAY” WORKBOOKS
The other big thing that kept me away from writing on The Daley Post was writing two new books, two workbooks to accompany the core book,
WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE? The way to know yourself and get what you want.
“WAY,” for short, as I said.
The first Workbook is for the general reader readers of this site, I’m guessing, and the second is for at-risk students.
SO. I’ve been staying off the street corners!
Thank you again for being a loyal subscriber to THE DALEY POST.
In a few days I’m going to reward you with a your own digital copy of the WAY book.
And thanks again.
Female bullies at work .
WEARING ‘SEXY’ CLOTHES AT WORK?
YOUNG, FIT AND PRETTY? WATCH OUT!
Female bullies could attack actress Minnie Driver if she appeared dressed like this for work.
She is dressed terrifically well for a night on the town but some women go to the office dressed like this. They are getting bullied.
It’s not so much the men that may cause you trouble. You know all about that!
No, it’s other women bullying you!
Females who wear provocative clothing at work are getting hit on, but not necessarily by men, and not in the way they might have expected.
There have been many articles in the press about bullying recently and a lot of them have focused on girls bullying girls.
Apparently the harassment doesn’t stop as girls grow up.
Women act aggressively at work towards other females they perceive as physically attractive. It’s worse if the targets are young, fit and dress provocatively.
A study was done by Tracy Vaillancourt of the University of Ottawa, published in the journal Aggressive Behavior.
Morgan Campbell wrote about it The Toronto Star.
We are accustomed to seeing this kind of thing on reality-based TV shows such as The Bachelor
but in the professor’s study of behavior at work, seeing sexily dressed employees prompted hostility in 97% of the other women who saw them. 97%!
Campbell interviewed Prof. Vaillancourt who researches and writes about mental health and violence prevention. Women frequently have “toxic relationships with other (female) employees” says Vaillancourt “and we know dressing a certain way will garner a negative reaction.’
An assistant entered the waiting room twice: once, she came in wearing pants and a blue top and the next time she came in wearing a mini-skirt. The women waiting barely noticed her in pants but the mini-skirt caused all but two of them to criticize her and even speculate about her morals.
In Campbell’s piece, Vaillancourt says this kind of hostility has come about through evolution.
When men are scarce, competition increases and females “drive-down” a woman’s “mate value” through gossip and insults.
I’m not sure if men are scarce these days but probably top-of-the-line men are scarce.
The professor says “We compete with each other all the time and we compete over really silly things.”
Statistics indicate that bullying is roughly 49/51 in offices (males to females) and females may bear the brunt of the behavior.
Campbell says that Vaillancourt figures evolution will win out over attempts to reduce bullying in offices.
“In the ideal world, “says Vaillancourt, “you can wear whatever you want to work: but if you wear something sexy “in the real world, you’re going to get it.”
This speaks to some touchy subjects:
Some will argue: “If you’ve got it, flaunt it” both on the basis of general worldliness and maybe getting ahead, or at least getting noticed, in a big office.
The evidence is that dressing provocatively does not help women trying to climb the ladder. It seems to lead to women bullies at work
Women bullies and bullying in general has to do with self-image.
Dressing in a provocative way could be considered healthy depending on the degree of “sexiness” demonstrated or at least how it is perceived by others– both men and women.
Appearance is important, especially at work and most serious businesses don’t like provocative dressing for a host of reasons. But some businesses (retail sales, advertising, etc.) have a more relaxed attitude towards dress, especially female dress.
It comes down to “When In Rome.. “ regarding business attire.
First impressions DO count and they are difficult to change in the minds of the perceivers.
Some years ago a sultry-looking woman lawyer, Debrahlee Lorenzana, was allegedly fired from Citibank because of her office dressing style.
It caused a big stink and led to lawsuits.
Some might argue that Ms. Lorenzana’s figure (in the photo here) is a legitimate part of her and the dress she has on doesn’t seem alarming.
She’s certainly alarming to some women.
That is a different slant on the dressing at work subject.
Today’s slant is female bullies and it’s complicated.
If you think that the way you feel about this topic challenges the way you regard yourself , or if you want to learn more about your”self” and how you present yourself to the world, sign up for my 40 page Ebook, FOUR QUESTIONS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE!
It’s free and I’ll send you more free information periodically.
I’m with you.
We don’t know each other yet…although I hope we get to.
I’ll be talking about you…about us…here on The Daley Post.
I don’t know you… but the problem is, maybe you don’t really know you either. And if you don’t really know yourself, three bad things are going to happen to you in life.
You won’t be in the right line of work. You won’t be with the right person. You won’t be happy. You feel this already…inside yourself.
I’ve written a book on this called “WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?: The way to know yourself and get what you want.”
You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want. You think you are making the right choices, of course, or you wouldn’t do it. Time proves you wrong.
The problem is that you don’t have enough of the right information to make the right choices yet. You’re going to pick the wrong man or woman and the wrong line of work forever.
You don’t have enough self-knowledge. I can help you with this.
When you are in a job you love, with a person you love…everything gets better!
I can help you get to know yourself to make it happen.
That’s my job at Self-Knowledge College and here on The Daley Post.
It won’t take long to see some dramatic positive results.
I’m going to prove it to you.