We all “know” why men have affairs. Or at least we think we know.
But men have affairs with women–they don’t do it on their own.
(There’s another word for that!)
So why do women have affairs?
Mike Bundrant, on Psych Central, reports a “study” that shows sex is another reason.
And why would that be a surprise?
Well, it isn’t necessarily, but Mr.Bundrant found the study was commissioned by a dating site! That doesn’t invalidate the initial premise but it might invalidate this study
“This focus of the study mentioned in this post is women who were seeking affairs in a particular manner. So, that’s the starting point.
I do not believe this study has credibility outside the specific population of women whose patterns were analyzed.
At any rate, the new look at why women have affairs reveals a provocative scenario, and raises some big questions.
Traditionally viewed, the role that married women are assumed to take when engaging in extra-marital affairs is thought to be driven by the need for love, emotional intimacy and affection.
Conventional wisdom suggests that women stray outside their marriage because they are emotionally dissatisfied.
Challenging the widely held notion that women seek relationships outside of their marriage for emotional substance, a new study reveals that women seek passionate, physical extra-marital relationships not for love, but for sex.
Yes, just the sex, please. And hold the emotional attachments. (Now, if you were a man, you’d probably add a pizza and a six-pack to that request.)
Yes, men have been branded as strictly physical beings, separating sex from love and therefore seeking out new physical relationships to satisfy sexual urges. The new study indicates that women are just as capable of making a distinction between love and sex within relationships.”
I think some women DO have affairs for the sex and Do separate sex and marriage, just like some men. Women are people too, last time I checked.
There are other reasons that elicit sympathy for people involved.
This one, not so much!